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I've been lurking around here and figured it was time for my first pooost! :)
I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years (he is my first boyfriend). And while we are still a few years away from getting engaged we have talked about moving in together after we graduate from college in 2011 and eventually getting married and I am completely looking forward to it!
I know that probably most people don't marry their first love but I'm just wondering how many bees out there are still with their first boyfriends and if anyone has advice on this whole waiting situation
Welcome to weddingbee! I'm not with my first boyfriend (thankfully, because he was a jerk) but my husband and I have been together since high school. Waiting can be tough but just try to continue on with your life and not dwell on it. Also, not talking about it really helps. See Mr. Bee's Three Step Plan which is completely spot on!
I am! Well, I had one or two dates before him, but nothing more than that. He had no dates whatsoever before me. We were 14 when we got together, and have been together ever since. We moved in together officially in August, although he stayed every night at my apartment for a year before that.
Honestly, we have a normal relationship. We went through one rough patch our senior year of high school because there were so many expectations from parents, etc, and so many uncertainties with college. But we stayed together and ended up much stronger because of that time.
In regards to engagement, we talked about our expectations together. We ended up getting engaged before we could afford a ring, and just telling close family and friends, and then saving up for the ring. That worked for us and I got a "real" proposal when the ring came in.
We're set to be married in June 2012, after we graduate. We will have been together for 8 years at that point. I can't wait!
I'm still with my first boyfriend! We've been a couple since new years eve 1999/2000 and we moved together in 2005. He proposed in May 2009... so it'll be 10 years when we marry and I'm so happy we do it now and not earlier (when I was in university). :)
Nope, long gone, which I'm happy to say because we def weren't right for each other.
not first but 3rd - does that count? lol :p
and honestly not even sure the 2nd one counted as a boyfriend (long story) and the 1st was from high school...
My fiance is basically my first boyfriend. Had one before him, but I don't really count it, haha!
I am engaged to my first boyfriend and we are getting married in two months! I didn't date in high school (personal choice -- from a small town with slim pickings!) and found my guy freshman year of college. We have been together ever since and I can't imagine being with anyone else. We have lived together for the past five years and really the only thing that will change when we get married is my name.
I would be so miserable if I was still with my first boyfriend. My FI would be boyfriend number . . . hmm, 5.
One of my bridesmaids is married to her high school sweetheart. They are 24 and have been married for 3 years already. And let me tell you, he might be the luckiest man on earth because as much as I love him, I can't think of a single other person who would put up with his crazy quirks.
I just wanted to comment on the wording of your OP. First boyfriend and first love are 2 diferent things most of the time. FI is my first love, but he was no where near my first boyfriend.
@SweetAdeline - we joke about that all the time! Almost every night we talk before we go to bed, and our conversations are weird. I mean, there is no one else I would admit my weirdest thought processes to! And we always end the conversations by saying something like, "you know, we're really lucky we found each other... could you imagine anyone else putting up with either one of us?"
My good friend from college married her first boyfriend. They survived long distance in college, getting through grad school together, and then once they got their first jobs, they got married. They are the only people I know who had that success with their first relationship, though. Definitely the exception. I'd say wait to move in together and experience non-college life on your own (but still dating him of course!) for a year or two - you'll never get that time back, and it is invaluble life experience. I personally wouldn't have considered marriage before age 25. There's just too much change that you and your boyfriend go through immediately after college - you guys need to see if you grow together or apart once you're in the "real world"!
To think about marrying my first boyfriend just makes me giggle. He's a really great guy and maybe if we weren't 14 when we started dating it would have been a possibility but at the time, I never considered marrying him just riding our bicycles and taking walks in the park and playing catch and going to school dances. Oh, to be 14 again and so innocent! We were togeter for 6 months which was so long at the time but we couldn't even drive and I was too shy to let him hold my hand between classes.
No, thank goodness! We were so young then, now I only know of him through facebook, but what I know shows that we would NOT be compatable now.
I chose to not date in high school. Like Rachel_Leigh I was from a small town and none of the guys really appealed to me. I went to college at a small school, but still didn't date (didn't really get asked, wasn't going to be the one to ask). I became acquaintances with a guyfriend's roommate through giving him rides to rehearsals for a play we were both in (he didn't have a car since our campus was small and his family wasn't that far away). We were friends for about a year and a half before we realized we both had feelings for each other. I was less than 2 months away from graduation and he was having a super busy semester too, so we decided that just being friends was best. About 3 weeks later, on opening night of another play we were in, he asked me to be his girlfriend after the show. I was 1 month shy of 21, he was about 19 1/2, and neither of us had ever dated anybody. We had not held hands or kissed anybody either. Today marks 3 months of being married!
Dating somebody who had never dated anybody else was hard because we had to learn how to be in a relationship while also learning how to be in a relationship with that particular person. It wasn't easy, but it helped that just a few months in, we knew that it was a forever relationship. Next month will mark 3 years since we decided to try out this relationship thing, and there have been rough patches. We aren't perfect, but we are perfect for each other. There is also something so sweet knowing that he doesn't compare kissing me or being intimate with me to any other person. That's a pretty special feeling. His dad made an interesting comment that "it's been great watch you grow together and learn together." As with any relationship, growth was required, but being so young and inexperienced with relationships, it was especially needed.
Sorry I wrote a book, but here's my story. Hope this helps!
Nope, but I'm marrying my second boyfriend! :) We've been together since 10th grade :)
Welcome to the Bee! I was in your shoes a few years ago :) I get to marry the first, last, and only love of my life on our 9 year anniversary. I had a non serious few boyfriends before him in Jr. High but looking back now, they weren't really relationships. I hope the best for you!
I went to an all-girls high school, so no HS boyfriends for me. We had a relationship with a brother school, but there were like 60 ppl in the whole class and they were all the same. I spent high school generally disappointed with the male gender. In college, I met my FI freshman year and we started dating sophomore year. He's had a girlfriend before, but for me it's my first relationship.
I wouldn't say that it makes a difference, except in good ways, like no random emotional baggage or dealing with exes or comparing him to anyone. I was raised to look for the right person rather than date around, and it works for me. My mom is still happily married to her first boyfriend, and my brother is planning to marry his first girlfriend.
Ha, I'm pretty sure I will be answering this question with a resounding "NO". I am 31, and marrying the guy I met at 27... Not my first boyfriend - and I am SO glad me and the first guy didn't work out!
i am still dating my first and only boyfriend.
he's had two girlfriends before me, but neither of those lasted very long - we were both the kinda people where you're friends with people, and if you can't see it lasting, you don't persue a relationship.
we started dating just before we graduated highschool, have been together for just about two years, and by the time we married it'll have been 3 1/2 years together.
while i may not have experienced other guys, i don't feel as though i've missed out on life. we went to opposite universities, basically spend every summer apart as he works at a kids camp full time, and we're both very open to travelling without each other.
Mine is a funny story. :p
I'm marrying my first boyfriend, but he wasn't my only boyfriend, lol. I met him in high school at a dance at his school (I went to an all girls school and he went to an all boys school). We dated for four years, then broke up my sophmore year of college. We didn't talk for a few years, and dated other people, but we reconnected 2 years ago, and have been together since. :)
@GirlWithARing: We seem very similar! :) I went to an all-girls high school too! And thats why I never dated anyone in high school. Besides, I was too shy and not sure enough of myself to be in a relationship. My BF had one girlfriend before me and that was when he was in high school it lasted all of one month and he'd only had one kiss before me.
The BF and I met the first day of freshman year in math class (we're both nerdy math majors), but we didn't start dating til the very end of the year.
I've been with my FI now since we were 14 years old! So we are both each other's firsts and we'll be getting married in less than two months!! :) <3
I started dating my fiance when I was 17. He was my first boyfriend. He'd had several girlfriends before me and had even had a serious relationship. He was 21 when we went on our first date. He still claims that I'm his first love though. We sorta see it as an ever lasting thing. Like your first love is your true love and your true love doesn't end. We've been dating for 4yrs, engaged for 3. We don't live together and don't plan to, until we're married, we just didn't feel like it was the right thing for us.
Welcome to Wedding Bee!
Good for you! You're very lucky to be with your first love!
As for me... no way was I that lucky! Looking back, my first bf was a nightmare & I was soooo crazy about him (he broke up with me). I had no idea how to be in a relationship or what I deserved! My FI isn't perfect, but he's the pretty much a god compared to my loser ex bfs! lol :)
Oh no! Definitely not dating my first boyfriend. But like Zippyleaf said (spot on!) I am getting married to my first love
yes i am!! FI was my first boyfriend ever and i was his first girlfriend. we started dating when we were 16 (me) 17 (him).
we have had our ups and downs naturally in these last 11 years together.... growing up in general together was both incredibly fun and amazing when we think about it. I also love that we have a shared past. i can't wait to marry him and call him my husband; we will be together 2 months- shy of 13 years together on our wedding day!!
I said yes, but I think it's not exactly true. I'm engaged to my first serious boyfriend, but I dated/ casually dated other boys in high school and college.
No, he was my first REAL boyfriend, but my 3rd offical boyfriend. We have been dating since the summer before our senior year in high school.
I wish Mr. Scissors were the only guy I'd ever dated! I went out with some real d-bags.
Nope. We broke up after 7 years of dating. It was a hard break up, but we couldn't stay together. We grew into totally different people with different goals. We were 17 when we first started dating, by 24 we were only in the relationship because we were too affraid to break up.
Hubby is my first boyfriend although it took me 22 years to get a boyfriend! I was very, very picky and I guess my system worked because I picked a real winner for my first boyfriend!
No. My first boyfriend was great and is a fantastic husband, I'm sure, but we didn't really have anything special. Then I dated the requisite collection d-bags before I finally met my FI. My FI was the best boyfriend of the bunch though!
Definitely not with my first boyfriend if you even want to call three weeks a relationship. I am howerver with my second boyfriend and is a lot better than the first. We plan on getting married in a couple of years and I couldn't imagine marrying someone else.
Nope....more like 5th or 6th Boyfriend!! I have had A LOT of fun!!! LOL =) I didn't start dating my FI until I was 24 and he was 26 (we met about a year before).
No. My ex boyfriend was unfaithful, selfish and emotionally distant. FI was my "re-bound" :)
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