Post # 1
I’ve been lurking around here and figured it was time for my first pooost! 🙂
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2 years (he is my first boyfriend). And while we are still a few years away from getting engaged we have talked about moving in together after we graduate from college in 2011 and eventually getting married and I am completely looking forward to it!
I know that probably most people don’t marry their first love but I’m just wondering how many bees out there are still with their first boyfriends and if anyone has advice on this whole waiting situation
Post # 3
Welcome to weddingbee! I’m not with my first boyfriend (thankfully, because he was a jerk) but my husband and I have been together since high school. Waiting can be tough but just try to continue on with your life and not dwell on it. Also, not talking about it really helps. See Mr. Bee’s Three Step Plan which is completely spot on!
Post # 4
I am! Well, I had one or two dates before him, but nothing more than that. He had no dates whatsoever before me. We were 14 when we got together, and have been together ever since. We moved in together officially in August, although he stayed every night at my apartment for a year before that.
Honestly, we have a normal relationship. We went through one rough patch our senior year of high school because there were so many expectations from parents, etc, and so many uncertainties with college. But we stayed together and ended up much stronger because of that time.
In regards to engagement, we talked about our expectations together. We ended up getting engaged before we could afford a ring, and just telling close family and friends, and then saving up for the ring. That worked for us and I got a “real” proposal when the ring came in.
We’re set to be married in June 2012, after we graduate. We will have been together for 8 years at that point. I can’t wait!
Post # 5
I’m still with my first boyfriend! We’ve been a couple since new years eve 1999/2000 and we moved together in 2005. He proposed in May 2009… so it’ll be 10 years when we marry and I’m so happy we do it now and not earlier (when I was in university). 🙂
Post # 6
Nope, long gone, which I’m happy to say because we def weren’t right for each other.
Post # 7
Definitely NOT with the same guy I started dating at 17…
Post # 8
not first but 3rd – does that count? lol :p
and honestly not even sure the 2nd one counted as a boyfriend (long story) and the 1st was from high school…
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
My fiance is basically my first boyfriend. Had one before him, but I don’t really count it, haha!
Post # 10
I am engaged to my first boyfriend and we are getting married in two months! I didn’t date in high school (personal choice — from a small town with slim pickings!) and found my guy freshman year of college. We have been together ever since and I can’t imagine being with anyone else. We have lived together for the past five years and really the only thing that will change when we get married is my name.
Post # 11
I would be so miserable if I was still with my first boyfriend. My Fiance would be boyfriend number . . . hmm, 5.
Post # 12
One of my bridesmaids is married to her high school sweetheart. They are 24 and have been married for 3 years already. And let me tell you, he might be the luckiest man on earth because as much as I love him, I can’t think of a single other person who would put up with his crazy quirks.
Post # 13
I just wanted to comment on the wording of your OP. First boyfriend and first love are 2 diferent things most of the time. Fiance is my first love, but he was no where near my first boyfriend.
Post # 14
@SweetAdeline – we joke about that all the time! Almost every night we talk before we go to bed, and our conversations are weird. I mean, there is no one else I would admit my weirdest thought processes to! And we always end the conversations by saying something like, “you know, we’re really lucky we found each other… could you imagine anyone else putting up with either one of us?”
Post # 15
My good friend from college married her first boyfriend. They survived long distance in college, getting through grad school together, and then once they got their first jobs, they got married. They are the only people I know who had that success with their first relationship, though. Definitely the exception. I’d say wait to move in together and experience non-college life on your own (but still dating him of course!) for a year or two – you’ll never get that time back, and it is invaluble life experience. I personally wouldn’t have considered marriage before age 25. There’s just too much change that you and your boyfriend go through immediately after college – you guys need to see if you grow together or apart once you’re in the “real world”!
Post # 16
To think about marrying my first boyfriend just makes me giggle. He’s a really great guy and maybe if we weren’t 14 when we started dating it would have been a possibility but at the time, I never considered marrying him just riding our bicycles and taking walks in the park and playing catch and going to school dances. Oh, to be 14 again and so innocent! We were togeter for 6 months which was so long at the time but we couldn’t even drive and I was too shy to let him hold my hand between classes.