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I was under the impression that the reader is supposed to read what the bride and groom pick! If she wants to offer something else, I'd give her the option of doing it as a toast. The ceremony is a very personal thing and should include things that are meaningful to you, not your reader. But that's just my opinion.
Again, I'm all for people presenting you with readings they hold dear or blessings, but that seems more like something that would be done at the reception or the rehearsal dinner not the ceremony. I'm not etiquette expert though.
this is odd. 
have always assumed that you pick out what your reader would read.
i thought the only person that you didnt have "full control" over was your minister. since many of them have a script they prefer to stick to.....
perhaps she is the confused one?
i would tell her "thank you for looking up these additional passages, but FH and I have decided on the one i sent you previously. Thanks!"
if you're the shy type, you could delay this response for a day or two to make it appear that you actually considered her options.
I think that you get to choose. Although its certainly nice of your friend to put some thought into the issue. Certainly tell her that you and FI chose the reading together, and maybe explain why, and let her know that although you appreciate her suggestions, after thinking it over you want to stick with your original choice. If this seems like a problem for her, maybe you want to get someone else to do it. I would personally be really nervous about someone "explaining" during the ceremony why they chose the reading they did - there shouldn't really be any surprises in that part of the service.
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I sent one of the readers in my wedding the passage I wanted her to read. But then she sent back an e-mail with other suggestions. On the phoen with her, she said she could explain the meaning of her choices at the ceremony. *_*
The thing is liked the one we picked, the other ones she selected are fine, but they're not exactly ones that inspire any feelings in us.
I'm trying not to be a bridezilla and I'm not sure what is supposed to happen with the reading. Were we supposed to allow her to pick something, or was she just supposed to read whatever we chose?
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