Who is the rude one here…LONG

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Best course of action here?
    Stop contacting the girl, let her figure her own stuff out : (13 votes)
    46 %
    Save her the bedroom, let a BM sleep on the air mattress : (0 votes)
    Give the bedroom to the BM : (15 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
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    42472 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @kapalua67: Most hotels can provide rollaway cots, so no one need be on an air mattress on the floor.

    You didn’t explain the room arrangements, but as far as I am concerned, I would do first come, first served.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @kapalua67:  I would simply email her and say, “I’ve been holding a bedroom for you, but due to time constraints and the need to work out accomodations for other guests, I will need a definite answer from you by the end of this week. If you need more than a week, I totally understand, and will have an air mattress available for you if needed.”

    ETA: but I’m on the “stop contacting her” side after this. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    537 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    If there’s still some sort of acomodation for her (ie the air mattress) I would give it away. Unless you’ve specifically promised her a bedroom, in which case I would just drop her an FYI email saying “really hope you can make it, we’ve still got accomodation/ an air mattress for you, the bedroom is full with confirmed guests, hope that works for you.” 

    If she doesn’t respond, I would drop it all together and assume she’s not coming.

    Post # 8
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    537 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Ok, then I would completely let it go. It sounds like you’ve gone out of your way to keep her informed, if she can’t be bothered to return an email at this point, give the space to confirmed guests as needed.

    Post # 9
    Member
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @kapalua67:  Don’t feel bad about it. You reached out and did your part. You’ve been generous with your space and time. Offer the room to the person who has actually committed to attending your weding. 

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