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I'm not close with my fatherm, in fact he's not invited. I always thought my grandfather would walk me but he passed away last year. I'll be 34 for when I get married, so it's not as if I feel like I need someone to walk me but I'm debating about having my mother walk me. What are others doing?
I'd like both of my parents to participate, but I haven't decided yet if I'll have them walk with me, or go down the aisle together first. I don't have a bridal party so we'll see.
I would love for my FI to walk me down the aisle, but he's against it! I'm kind of loving the idea of walking myself down the aisle- after all I'm an independent woman & I've gotten myself to this point (this is where my feminist side ends). I would get my FI to meet me 1/4 of the way then :)
I don't have a close relationship with my father--haven't spoken to him in years & don't want him to even know I am getting married. My uncle (actually great uncle--brother to my grandmother) who has done a lot for me over the years will be walking me down the aisle.
My mother is going to be officiating the ceremony, but if she wasn't doing that, I would have had her walk me down the aisle. We have a close relationship and I just think of it as acknowledging someone who has really been there and supported you--and that has definitely been my mother!!
@ recessionista- If it wasn't my uncle, I would have been totally fine walking by myself, so if you don't have someone that means a lot to you that you want to step into that role, you should feel free to walk yourself. If I was there I would be cheering you on!!
my son actually wants to walk me down! i was quite surprised when i heard this.. perhaps my stepdad and dad will walk me half way and my son the rest of the way...
@moneypenny: aww thanks! I always thought my grandfather would do it, but he had a severe stroke in 2008 and he's in a wheelchair now. It just doesn't feel right to use another male member of my family! haha he joked that I could sit on his lap & he'd wheel me down the aisle :)
Thanks all! I think I might just ask my mom and see how she feels. I'm really ok either way.
@Soontobe: I think that would be lovely! Family roles are changing all the time- I think its important that you're comfortable with your choices vs tradition.
My father is deceased and I am debating between walking down the aisle by myself and having my mother escort me.
I am not at all close with my biological father...so my grandfather will be walking me down the aisle and possibly my mother....I have not decided just yet.
My mum's walking me down the aisle. I'm not close to my dad - he'll be there but we don't really see each other and generally have a fairly strained relationship so having him walk me down the aisle would just be weird - and fake! So my mum's gonna walk me down the aisle - originally I was just going to walk by myself but I kept imagining the music and my BM's gradually leaving as the went down the aisle and me being there by myself knowing everyone was going to be looking at me - made me a bit nervous so I decided that my mum should be there to help me out!
My son who will be 3 at the time of the wedding will walk me down the aisle...I cried when he got fitted for his little tux last month..Its going to be an exact match to his daddy's. My father is invited but we do not have a close relationship.
I too am not close with my father. I always thought my grandfather would too but he died last May. So I am going to ask my brother - he is the only blood related male I know!
My mom is walking me down the aisle. She and my father divorced when I was little, and I would not be where I am today without her <3
That was a no brainer, but I am having a hard time with the father-daughter dance. I don't have a relationship with my dad, and he will not not be at the wedding. I would love to dance with my Grampy, but I don't know if he would be (physcially) comfortable doing that. My Fi is dancing with his mom-is it weird for me to just skip my dance?
Just me!
I am an only child. I'm not close with either parent (I'll spare you the details) and from what I have heard, they don't really care that I am getting married (I am not surprised)I am very independent (sometimes to a fault) so I feel completely comfortable walking myself.
I also think the idea of being "given away" makes me sound like property, so it's just not my cup of tea. However, if it was viewed more as "here is a person that was a big support in my life taking me to the next journey in my life..." then I might have a different perspective.
I'm not close with my dad at all and he probably won't even be there. So, my mom is walking me down the aisle. She is really excited about it, I think.
@msmonicka - Thank you. My dad died when I was four, which was so long ago that I barely remember him. But my mom died on 3/4/05, which simultaneously feels like forever ago and yesterday.
If my Abuelo [grandfather] was alive i would have asked him as he's our family's patriarch to say the least. But my father is walking me down the aisle.
@redherring I'm so terribly sorry for your loss, my Grandfather passed away when I was 17 and it was devestating, I can't imagine losing a parent needless to say 2.
I don't have a relationship with my dad (haven't talked to him in years and he wasn't invited to my wedding) and my mom wanted to watch me walk down the aisle. I asked my little brother, which ended up being awesome. He and I get along great and he kept me relaxed and laughing.
I will be walking by myself down the aisle. It's very symbolic for me, as I don't have a close relationship with my father and have been very independent up to meeting FI (not that I am totally codependent now, ha).
@katiek625 - My father isn't attending our wedding. We're going to try and skip the mother-son dance but we'll see. If my FMIL is upset by it, they'll dance and then we'll move on. By then, everyone who doesn't already know my father is not there will know anyway. I think it's fine.
@redherring - sorry for your loss - I imagine that must make your wedding a bit bittersweet. I know not having my father there sometimes seems that way to me and he's still living.
@mismonicka - your son is absolutely adorable! I'm sure that will put a smile on everyone's face and it's great he is that excited about your wedding!!
I love my mother but we haven't always have the best relationship so I took the personal decision to let my step dad walk me down the aisle. He only been with my mom for the last ten years but i love him like a father and i know it will mean a lot to him.
My little brother is walking me. Dad passed away and my Mom is not interested in walking me, she'd rather my stepdad do it - I think it's too emotional of a thing for me so I asked little bro instead.
My dad passed away a few years ago, so it will be my mom walking me down the aisle. I have a brother but would like to do it with my mother being she is still my parent as well. The first dance might be where I miss my dad the most -- still thinking about how to handle that.
My daddy passed away as well. I was going to have my mum walk me down the aisle but she didn't want too because she is afraid of tripping and crying hysterically lol. She's very klutzy. Anyways my brother and I aren't close so he's not going to be doing it. My uncle asked if he could have the honor so of course I said yes! We're close. Along with him I asked his best friend to come along as well. So I'm having my uncle and a close family friend walk me down :) You can do whatever you want since it is your wedding. Enjoy!
wow - it's so exciting to see so many ladies that will be sashaying down the aisle solo! w00t!
this is a really tough one for me because I've never met my father and he's never been a part of my life, and my grandfather, who I always assumed would give me away, passed on about 15 years ago. My only uncle (mom's older brother) is not in great shape either. But out of every wedding I've been to recently, there's something I've liked about both parents doing the giving away of both bride and groom. So it will probably be my godfather (who has mostly been like a father to me) and my mom.
My dad walked me dwn the aisle. I had severalnightmares over the years that he wasn't going to be there to walk me down. He was and thankfully his severe vertigo eased a bit that day.
Not sure yet. Either both my parents or walk alone or walk with my fiance. In the Catholic sacrament, you choose your partner freely and there is not the tradition of "giving away" so I kind of like walking down the aisle by myself or with my fiance. But my fiance is super traditional.
My father is a turd, and not in my life. My cousin walked me down in his Air Force blues. He looked so handsome!
My mom and dad will both be walking me down the aisle. If you are close with your mom have her do it! That would mean a lot to her I'm sure.
Great to see so many different options and choices to represent that each bride truly is different and unique!!!
My dad just recently passed away, so I will be having my brother and my mom walk me down the aisle. I plan on having a charm with a picture of my dad attached to my bouquet, so he will be there with me.
I also plan to have a brother/sister dance in place of a father/daughter dance and dedicate it in honor of our father.
I'll be 31 when I take that walk and plan to have my daughter walk me down the aisle. My parents weren't together when I was born, so there's really no relationship there and my mom will be a big ball of tears, so there's no way she can do it. My daughter and I've been together since before FI and I, so it only makes sense that she brings me to him to share.
If my daughter weren't up to it. . I'd take that walk by myself. I've been on my own for over 10 years, so I figure I can walk by myself.
DAD!!!!! Yup, doin it old school. (Will be 36 by time of wedding)
To "Here Comes the Bride!" LOL.
both of my parents wants to walk me down. i'm closer to my mother but i don't want to deal with the drama thtat wounld ensure if i don't include my dad. also the aisle is kinda narrow....not sure how we are all gonna fit down it. LOL maybe we'll walk single file.
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