(Closed) Who is walking you down the Aisle?

posted 7 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My mothers sperm donor (my father) isn’t in my life so I’m having my younger brother walk me down the aisle.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love the idea of your son walking you, especially since your daughter is MOH. Just because you walk down the aisle with someone does not mean that the person is “giving you away.” I think that’s a really outdated concept, at least to many of us out here. Your choice to walk with your son would just be a really lovely and meaningful way of involving him in the wedding.

EDIT: P.S. – I also don’t think having your son walk you will detract from your FI’s “traditional” wedding experience. You’ll still be walking down the aisle toward him!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think its a great idea….

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No, it’s not poor etiquette! At least not in my opinion. 🙂 Your reasoning completely makes sense to me, and honestly, I think having your son walk you will make for a really beautiful scene. 

I attended 2 weddings this summer (plus my own!), all traditional (in the sense that the bride wore white, was walked down the aisle, etc.) and the officiant did NOT say “who gives this woman…” at any of them. I really think this language is being phased out–or at least it is in my region.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My son is also walking me down the asile. Most people that know us think it is really cool and very fitting.  Other people on different websites say it is creepy or odd. 

All together I think that if any person should have a say in who I marry I think it is him.  He is so excited for this job and he feels so proud of the factor that he gets to walk me down the aisle.  I am sure you son would feel honored too. 

I think if you are having your daughter be you MOH then having your son walk you down the aisle gives him and equally important wedding job. 

Post # 9
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you should walk down the aisle with your son.  I think its a great idea and if you feel comfortable with it, then you should do it!  I totally agree with your reasoning!  Every family is different and so each has to do what is best for them!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m also an encore bride and my 14 year old son will be “escorting” me down the aisle. Since he’s my oldest child and a young adult I thought it fitting since there will be a new man of the house so to speak and he’s super excited to do it. I think you’re son will feel very honored to have such a responsibility at the wedding as well.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My daughter (who will be 9) will be walking me down the aisle.  I have had some visions of having the minister say the “traditional” spiel about “who gives this woman…” and having DD say, “I’ll share her.”  We’ll see if it’ll actually happen. . . doubtful.

I think you’re totally on the right track having you son escort you and I absolutly see nothing wrong with it.  You don’t list the ages of your children, but it’s possible that they are still at home.  If that’s the case that I think it’s even more appropriate, you’re creating a family, not just a marriage.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I also think it is very special that your son walk you down the aisle. I say go for it 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@milesbella: I’ve had alot of the same issues. This is my third wedding/marriage and FI second marriage/1st wedding so for him I’m going all out. I want alot of the traditional aspects for him but we’re not a very traditional couple and neither our relationship been. I’m wearing a black dress and he’s super excited about it. Will other people have strong feelings about it? Yes I’m sure but he’s happy so I really could care less about what anyone else thinks. The ceremony should reflect you and your FI and whatever works for you all is what you should do. All the other married couples have had their day and this is yours. The singles just need to get to where you are Laughing

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I’m had my little brother walk me down the aisle. I couldn’t have picked a better person. My Dad and I haven’t talked since I was 16, and my step father and I don’t have that father daughter relationship SO my brother it was!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My wife and I walked down the aisle together.  If you want your son to escort you, that is a beautiful idea!  In my mind, the whole concept of a father “giving you away” is completely outdated anyway.  And your son is perfectly fine as an escort.

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