Post # 1
So I would LOVE to know who is walking you down the aisle..
My father is no longer around, I have three older brothers and the most wonderful mum anyone could ask for!
I’m in a bit of a pickle! My eldest brother would like to walk me down, but my mum has done so much for not only my brothers and I throughout the years, but also for my fiance and myself.
I would like all 3 of my brothers to play a part in our wedding. The eldest will perhaps walk me down the aisle, the middle will be my witness (as he is a bit of a joker and will either trip me or make an embarassing speech), and the youngest wil make the speech as I am closest with him.
Our celebrant said my Mum could stand up and ‘give me away’ – however, I don’t feel I need someone to give me away, I prefer we give ourselves to each other.
My point is I’m not sure whether to have my mum or my eldest brother do it..
I would love to hear how you have included your family in your ceremony/wedding 🙂
Post # 3
I’m walking myself down the isle.
Post # 4
I’m going very traditional and my daddy is going to walk me down the aisle. I’m very lucky to have him and I couldn’t imagine anyone else there doing it.
If, God forbid, my father couldn’t be there on my wedding day, I also have a very wonderful and amazing step-father who would gladly step in and give me away.
I think that either way you decide it would be good. I would say maybe have your brother walk you down the aisle. You could have your mom participate in the unity candle ceremony – light your candle for you. Or you could, as your officiant stated, have her give you away – I see what you are saying about not wanting anyone to give you away, but I have seen lots of ceremonies where the officiant asks who gives this woman…
Maybe talk to you mom and see how she feels – my mom rocks too, and I’ve been running a lot of things by her.
Post # 6
I am having both my parents walk me down. Both have been such an intricate part of my life and I did not feel right leaving my mom out of this. She is very honored to be included.
Post # 7
@shooting_star5711: Thanks! You are so lucky to have your dad there! 🙂
We aren’t doing the unity candle, just something very simple. I definitely want someone to walk me down the aisle as I am the clumsiest person – and the fact I want someone who means the world to me to be by my side.
I think I will have my brother do it. We have thought of when we do our speech that we will at the end have a special bit for my mum. She is quite a shy person who doesn’t like all eyes on her (I got that from her too!). I have my eye on some beautiful earrings which we will give to her at some point that day. I will most likely give them to her before we leave for the ceremony 🙂
Post # 8
My father passed away and few years ago, and I move to Ireland (as most of my family moved back years before just my brother and I remained in Toronto), and as much as my mum wants to walk me down the Aisle I have asked my brother to. He was over joyed to be doing this. My mum after alot of hesitation realizes that this is the one this I want for my wedding. I can’t wait cause I know my brother will do my dad proud!
Post # 9
My dad walked me down the aisle, but if for some reason he were unable, I’d have had my older brother do it.
Post # 10
My dad is :). If I couldn’t have my dad, I would probably have one or both of my brothers walk me down the aisle instead. For my wedding, one brother was a GM and one was an usher
Post # 11
If my dad couldn’t walk me down, I would walk myself.
You can always make your brothers ushers or have them pull out the aisle runner, etc.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone else!
I remember my dad promising me on my 5th birthday that he would walk me down the aisle – he gave me a ring when he told me this. So if I could have, and things were different I would of had him there. But unfortunately I can’t, but I do have my other family members who would be so honoured to do this 🙂
I enjoy hearing each of your stories and ideas!
Post # 13
Me and FI will walk in together!
Post # 14
FI and I will walk in together. It will be just the two of us and no music.
Post # 15
Im not a 1st time bride- my fathers around but hasnt been a huge part of my life-
I have children… so for my aisle walk.. i will be beginning on my own for about 1/4 of the aisle
my son ( oldest living) will meet me, then at 3/4 of the aisle my daughter will meet us and they will both walk me to rest of the way.
FI and I love this idea as the kids meeting me and we all 4 will form a new family
Post # 16
My father passed away five and a half years ago and I have known since then that my brother will walk me down the aisle. My mother is also an absolutely amazing woman who would do anything for my siblings and me, but my little brother really has become the man of my family and is one of my best friends. Plus, my mom loves how close my siblings and I are so she really appreciates the fact that my brother is doing this for me. I thought about having both, but I also want my mom to have the experience of watching me come down the aisle 🙂