Who knew FMIL travel plans could cause drama?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

LittleSassLotsofClass:  I would go ahead and still have the brunch. You can’t make your plans around her! It she really will be offended that you’re having a brunch, you can always politely suggest that she change her ticket.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

She chose to leave so early in the morning. Make your brunch plans, that isn’t unreasonable.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mention to her that you’re planning a brunch so she can change her flight if she wishes.  If she doesn’t, then it’s on her. I wouldn’t plan it without telling her, though, because then there will be some (understandably so) hurt feelings. 

As for waking up to say goodbye, honestly, it’s not the end of the world.  You spend five minutes, say goodbye, and go back to bed.  We had a brunch after our wedding, and were up at seven am the next morning to get to the location and get it set up .  It’s very doable!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would just wish her a good night and safe flight at the wedding. You should tell her about the brunch so she could make the decision to change her flight, but if she chooses not to, then you’re good to go. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

It was quite thoughtless of her to make those plans and she’ll have to deal with the consequences of her thoughtlessness. I wouldn’t give it another thought, personally. You have other guests to deal with, not to mention your first morning as a married couple!!!

Perhaps your FI could gently mention that “in case she didn’t realize it,” her plans make it impossible for you to even see her that morning…. But seriously, what was she thinking!?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If her son chooses to get up early and give her one last good bye hug don’t begrudge him. Certainly you don’t have to though.

I can understand taking an early flight. More time to get back to your home and relax for the rest of the day. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Say goodbye to her at the wedding and have your brunch as planned.  She may be the center of HER universe, but that doesn’t mean she’s the center of yours.  Will she bitch and moan about it? Likely.  But from what you’ve said, if not this, then she’ll find something else to complain about.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Say goodbye to her the night before, have your brunch the next day, and don’t get upset with your husband if HE decides to wake up at 7 to say goodbye to his mom though.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

LittleSassLotsofClass:  There’s no reason her travel plans should prevent you from having your brunch. I would make it clear that she is invited to the brunch, should she decide to change her travel plans.

As for getting up early to say goodbye to her, is it really the end of the world if you have to shuffle out of bed for a minute? She hasn’t even said anything about it yet. I don’t think it’s worth worrying about.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Have your brunch! Just mention it to her and she can change her flight if she wants to. And I wouldn’t be keen on waking up to see her either – just make sure you say goodbye at the wedding! 

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