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My FH is not the jealous type and he could careless who makes more, but there are times when I ask his opinion about the wedding and he does tell me that since I am paying for the majority of the wedding that I do have the final say. Sometimes when I want something a certain way I love that answer but there are times that I am stuck between to choices and I wish he would let me know.
Right now my husband makes more. But once I finish my post-doc and get a real job, I will probably (hopefully!) make more than him. It doesn't make any waves in our relationship. We are very similar in how we handle finances. I think if one was a spender and the other a saver it might be a problem
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I did make about 10k more a year until I quit my job (long story). I'm looking for work but probably won't go back until after the wedding.
Well... we're both graduate students, so neither of us is exactly 'rolling in it'. But technically, I have more grant money than he does right now. Once we're both working in our field, though, I suspect he'll be the one making more money.
I make more, and it does cause some issues, mostly with me. FI has no problem sharing his money, but I do sometimes feel resentful when sharing mine. The hard part is, I have never been a "saver" and he always has. We are trying to save for a house and he is much better at it than I am, and he sometimes seems critical when I spend money on myself, which makes me feel badly because I feel like "I make more I should be able to spend it!" But....I need to just get over it. 
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He graduated with a what we call a real job first -- so he makes more. But I won't be far behind!! I hope to one day make more :)
He definitely makes more ... it is mostly based on the specialty of his major in college/career choice ... but I also totally admit that he is much more driven then I am in regards to career. I am really happy with where I am right now and I am aware that my profession just isn't an extremely lucrative profession.
He currently makes about $7k more than I do but based on the fact that I am 6 years younger than him and am a recent college grad I will probably make more one day based on my career - unless he finds a job in Finance like he graduated with.
He makes more, and by a lot! He probably always will, too, because that's just how it works in his career versus mine...but it's no big deal to either of us.
I make more than he does because I'm working full-time and he's a grad student. But I put away 50% of my pay for our house fund, and I have way more expenses than him, so he tends to pay for more. It works out - the less I spend on taking us out to dinner, etc., the more money we have banked for our house. We don't fight about money.
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He makes 8.50/hr and I make 9/hr plus about 2/hr in tips on average. I can't technically say I make more since sometimes he get more hours than I do and what not!!!
i make more but his workplace is much more flexible with time so he usually works a 4 day week
i work longer hours than he does (inc weekends and midnight conference calls when needed), his office never knows when he is going to show up or not and he can work from home whenever the mood takes him.
his salary is the responible household, bills & investment stuff and my salary is the fun/holidays/toys stuff - either way, we're not hurting and i recognize that as a blessing
He makes a few thousand dollars a year more than me right now, but that amount will probably increase when I find a new job closer to home.
It's funny, we switched places. When we met I was in school and he was making a lot more; we made about the same for a year, and now he's with a startup-- really happy but making a lot less.
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We're very close in pay right now, but I will eventually make more as my commissions continue to grow.
I will make more for a half second while Mr. Lab finishes up PTA school. Then his salary will blow my measly reporter salary out of the water! lol
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He makes more than I do, which is fine. And now I'm going back to school and will be dependent on him... I haven't had to depend on someone financially for 5 years. 
It'll be weird, but we'll be fine after we get used to it...
I would be making a LOT more if my industry hadn't crumbled into oblivion because of the lovely economy and I hadn't had to find something else to start over with, but as it stands.....
I am making more than him right now either way because he's in retail and a large portion of his salary is made up of bonuses which are based on profitibality which are flailing because of the lovely economic situation... sigh.
Otherwise, we'd make the same at my current job.
My husband makes 3-5X what I make (depending on his yearly bonuses). We try to keep things on an even keel, but he is definitely the breadwinner.
At the moment I make more, but since Mr.F is working in the health system... he ends up doing lots of overtime and surpasses my salary.
He makes more, but that's because here Designers are paid with candy :( I have two jobs and I cant make as much as he does with one there :(
We work for the same company currently, and have the same postion...just in different locations :) We make the same.
I quit my full time job to finish up my undergrad. I'm not working right now so he definately makes more than I do. By the time I finish my undergrad and graduate degrees he will be earning more. I don't think I'll every catch up even if I become a big time lawyer. 
I don't mind though. The good thing that has come out of this is that once I get a job we are planning on living off one income like we currently due and save the rest.
i made more last year but he'll make more this year since i was out of work for several months (F-U recession!). we don't really care who makes more, and it's always nice to have more $$ than less, but in this economy and considering the fact that we are BOTH on wall street, we are both really happy to have jobs regardless of how much we are (or aren't!) making.
The boy just started a new job in our small home town, so he took a pay cut, so now I'm his sugar mama! ;)
Wow I'm surprised how few women think they'll make more than their hubs for the long term! I make quite a bit more than mine. Of course, we're not yet engaged (will be this fall prob). But, I'm an attorney so my earning capacity will only grow exponentially and his will probably grow more slowly. Don't get me wrong-- he makes a great salary and has a really great job, just not as highly paid as lawyers are.
The only concern I have for the future is that he really loves working and I really don't. I'm worried that (whether he puts this pressure on me or not) I'll never feel okay cutting back hours or taking a few years off when we have kids because it would cut our income so drastically. We always say that we really should switch careers because he's the workaholic who can't fathom not working, and I work just as much as is necessary to bring home the paycheck :)
If i stick with engineering and management, I will always make more than him (the lowest level engineering managers start at 110K a year!) because he has no desire to go into management (and my type of engineering is paid more heftily than his) and if i stay in engineering, I will die if i don't get into management. If i leave for something else though, he'll probably do better than me.
However, I refuse to take a massive pay cut if i switch careers.
I make more money than him, though neither of us makes that much! If he ever manages to graduate with his BS, he'll make more money than I do even with my two Masters degrees...that's what I get for going into education, though!
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I know it's not meant to be a competition, (and I'm looking forward to merging my finances with my fiance and sharing "our money")--but is there any contention between you and your SO about the amount of money either of you makes?
I make more than FH because I'm employed full time and he is a full time student working a part-time job. It'll be this way for the next three years, but when he starts working I imagine, we'll be close to the same .
Neither of us minds at all...we're just in different stages of life! (I will probably stay home when we have kids, until they're all in school)