Who makes more money in your relationship?

posted 3 years ago in Career
  • poll: Who "brings home the bacon"?
    We are both employed and I make more money. : (73 votes)
    27 %
    We are both employed but SO makes more money. : (127 votes)
    46 %
    We make about the same (+/- $5,000/year) : (37 votes)
    13 %
    One of us is a student/unemployed at the moment. : (38 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6513 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    DH makes a bit more than I do. It caused a bit if tension for us right when we graduated because we had to discuss whose career would come first. We decided that I would follow him as he will always have more earning potential in his industry.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5460 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I currently earn more than DH (though he has a degree and has mugh higher earning potential) and so far it has not caused any issues in our relationship.

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    For the first time in our 7 year relationship, FI makes more money 🙂 We don’t have tension now, but when he was hardly making any money it did.

    My bb is moving up in this world!

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    5518 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    He makes nearly double what I make.  Its not really an issue in our marraige.

    Post # 7
    Member
    744 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @thenewmrsmax:  My SO makes considerably more than I do.  I don’t think it bothers him that I will never make as much as him.

    Post # 8
    Member
    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I  make more money.  DH Is a phd student, and he gets his tuition paid for and he gets paid for 20 hours of work a week (TA-ing).  Once he graduates, he will make a lot more than me, the starting salary for him is higher than where my profession caps off at!  

    It hasn’t caused much tension, we decided it would be best to combine finances, since we are a team.  Neither of us spends more than the other, and I like it that way.  Now it is my time to bring in the bacon, soon it will be his.  

    Post # 9
    Member
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My husband makes more than me, because I dont make anything (ha) we like it this way.

    Post # 10
    Member
    8426 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My husband makes infinitely more than I do, I’m a SAHW that does art for fun (so I’m not seeing a huge paycheck lol).  I handle all the finances and we never argue about money.  However, I was very clear about wanting to stay home when we first started dating, so he has always known that he would be the breadwinner.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1582 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    He makes more money, but I am pretty close behind. It does not cause any tension. We are on the same page with our finances.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1802 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We actually make the exact same salary right now, but in the past I have made a lot more money for working half the amount of time he does. That made him a bit jealous of my hours/pay, but it was never something we fought about. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    One of us makes about 30% more than the other, but it isn’t an issue. It’s all “our” money. It all goes into the same pot to achieve our shared goals. If one of us gets a raise, we sit down together to decide how to best use the additionl income. If one of us wants something pricey, we sit down together to discuss where that pricey expense fits in our budget and financial goals.

    Post # 14
    Member
    498 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @thenewmrsmax:  before taxes and everything FI makes more but after taxes and his child support i make more…it doesnt cause any issues with us..hes pay a little more for bills than i do since im paying off student loan. we work together so no money issues with us

    Post # 15
    Member
    492 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

    I make more than my DH on base salary (about 10k) but he has the possibility for overtime and bonuses, so it varies. So far, it hasn’t caused any tension between us. We have talked about whose career will come first and we haven’t really reached a decision yet. DH works for a large international company with a ton of opportunities in the US and abroad, but there are very few companies that do work like mine. Thankfully, I would probably be able to get a job at DH’s company if we do end up taking an international assignment.

    Post # 16
    Member
    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Right now FI is in law school, so I make more money. When he graduates, he’ll probably end up making like 3 times what I make, though.

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