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Right now my husband makes more than me. However, I'm a post-doctoral researcher now. Once my post doc is finished and I get a 'real job' I will probably make almost twice as much as him. He doesn't seem to care since we're joint checkers all the way!
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Ah, to answer my own question, I think that if the woman makes more money in the relationship, the man SHOULD do the majority of the housework! HELLO!
Sadly I couldn't live by this if I were the one making more money (maybe I am, maybe im not... just trying to be anonymous here!). My inner wife still would (or does) feel like it's my job to do all the "inside" housework. And since we don't have a yard or anything (we live in a condo) that pretty much leaves "tidying up" and taking out the trash to Mr. Peng.
Also... I would never trust my husband to clean the bathroom. The toilets have to be so clean that you could eat off of them if you had to, and how can I trust him to make sure he gets all the crevices?
Plus, neither of us trust him to cook meals, so that's not his fault. But sigh... being a working wife is hard work!!!
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My husband makes more money than I as I have choosen a career that will never rake in the big bucks, but I love it. He has a cush federal gig, so I say he works less but gets paid much more!
I think we split up housework equally, though it may be slightly more weighted on his side. I work long, odd hours and he understands and pitches in even when it is my turn.
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My husband will ALWAYS make more than me. Doesn't matter that I'll have a Ph.D. in biochem/biophysics... my husband is a radiologist. As in, after his fellowship and specialization, he'll be easily pushing $300K.
If it was reversed, it would make a HUGE difference. Beause my husband makes the $$, he thinks he has the right to choose where we live (fortunately for me, I may very much dislike where he is moving, but at least there will be LOADS of job opportunities for me, which would not be the case in 95% of America). If I was raking in the big bucks, then I'd get to move wherever I want for my job... post-doc here, faculty there, etc. My husband will NOT be moving around the country, he is planning on staying in the same city where he is doing his residency, so it's up to me to find jobs in that one area.
Oh, as far as housework, it almost all falls on me. I work 80-90 hours/week. He works 90-100. Thus because I have more "free time", the housework completely falls on me.
dang, like i was telling you, i still don't know yo! it IS tax time around the corner tho so i guess i'll get back to ya!
It's me...which is even more sad when you consider that I'm a teacher. 
My husband does and will always make more. He's a firefighter and I'm a teacher...nuff said! He'll really make a lot when I switch careers and become a domestic engineer when we have kids. And I must say, I'm pretty lucky because he does A LOT of the housework and cooking. I'm usually the sous chef in the kitchen and my biggest responsibility for housework is laundry. My little firefighter is quite the little chef/organizer/cleaner...so I love it and I'm going to enjoy it while I can!
Up until recently, it was him (since I was in school) but now that I'm out with a real job and he's sinking money into his own firm plus consulting, I'm actually making more (base), but only slightly. We'll see what bonuses are like this year-- I could pull ahead by quite a bit but I'm not expecting great things. He loves joking that I'm going to buy him a 1-series when I get that check, but I tell him the Audi S5 comes first. Both of us like that either one of us could support the household comfortably on a singe income; I think it takes a lot of stress off everyone that way.
As far as domestic duties go, I cook more often because I think it's fun, and he's neater than I am so he does more of the household cleaning. (Plus he has more time.) Luckily both of us grew up in the same general area so there's no question about where we're settling-- we like it, jobs are decent, and when we have kids both sets of grandparents will be within an hour's drive.
I'm the main provider at the moment, but that's really due to all the tax free entitlements I get (military). If I wasn't in the military, can't say I'd know who would be making more money.
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We're in the same range at the moment, but I admit I don't know who will end up making more. We're both going back to school at some point...a PhD in Computer Science for him and likely an MBA, but possibly PhD in Business for me. We are both planning on Top 5 schools if we can get ourselves in. A lot of it will probably depend on what we do with our degrees.
If we can time it right, one of us will be in school at a time so we won't going from being highly paid DINKs to impoverished students in Boston. There will certainly be a disparity for those years! We're joint accounters though, so it shouldn't be an issue as to which one of us it is. We very much share responsibility now and I don't expect that to change based on income. If one of us chose to stay home, yes, but otherwise no.
As of this years W-2, he makes about 4k more than I do...so we make pretty much the same amount. I work more hours usually, but he is also in school so he is gone a lot fo time too. We split houseowrk, whoever is available when it needs ot be done, does it.
We also have speerate bank accounts, and will continue to do so for the forseeable future, works better for us.
We make about the same. We do about the same around the house. It used to be he made alot more, but we were still even on the housework. I don't think your salary should factor into who does more housework, unless one person works longer hours.
Very interesting post! I'm older than my husband so I've been working longer and make more right now, but my husband is a lot smarter than I am and has greater long term earning potential (also, he is just a lot more ambitious than I am). Also, even though I make more, I'm probably the bigger financial drain due to my school loans...he has almost no debt because he had a full scholarship.
I make about double what my fiancee makes. He calls me his sugar mama (but there ain't that much sugar :) But in about 4 years when he is done with his medical residency and becomes an actual orthopaedic surgeon, he'll probably make triple what i make. I unfortunatley do 75% of the housework. I work about 60 hours a week and he probably works 90 so like julieulie I do most of it by default. I love the cooking part but LOATHE doing laundry.
i cheated and said we make the same, i make a lot less than FH, but if you ask me in a few months it'll (should be) the opposite... crossing fingers.
I voted that we make the same. Technically I make more money because I've been teaching 4 years longer than him, but I don't think it is that much of a difference. I am also in the process of my master's in administration, so if I choose to go into edu admin I will be making almost twice as much as my husband. Currently I do the majority of the housework, but I also have chosen to pay someone to come in every other week to do the major cleaning.
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Though we have roughly the same credentials, Mr T has traded income for a job that offers much greater quality of life. This means that, even as a government worker, I used to make far more than him.
Now that I'm on disability, I draw some income but far less than he does. And I'm actually much less comfortable in this role. Even though I hope our marriage lasts forever, it makes me nervous that I don't independently have enough to live on without the help of his salary.
As for housework, technically we share but because I'm ill and never have energy he actually ends up doing most everything. So guess that's another reason I hope to keep him around forever! ;)
hubby has been laid off for a few months so technically i make more money even though I have a part time job.
I'm living my dream and working at a museum, so- yes- I make a lot less than DH. I DO sometimes do more housework. I'm doing laundry right now! But it is NOT about the amount of money, but more about hours. I get more days off and don't usually have to stay later than 5- so it makes more sense. But he does his fair share!
We used to be neck in neck in terms of pay, but I was usually making just a few cents more per hour than my husband was. It was great because it gave him an incentive to earn more raises because he wanted to be beat my pay. I personally don't care who makes more money, but if he's always going to have that little game in mind, I hope I can continue to make more so he keeps striving to get more raises. hehe
He finally surprised me at one point, but about 3 months later I got a real nice promotional raise and made a gap big enough between our pay to make it harder for him to meet/beat me unless he gets a promotion too - a promotion we don't see happening anytime soon since he got one just before mine.
We're both about the same... work for the same (very large) employer in different departments. On one hand it makes me feel secure because we each have a steady income.. on the other hand if one of us were to be laid off it'd be like a 50% pay-cut. Oh and working for the same employer, what if we BOTH were laid off!
My hubs makes about twice as much as I do right now. I just got a new job after being out of work for 2 months, and he is lucky to have enough of a specialized career that he's been in the same job since university, and he's been able to move up the ladder a few times. I do most of the housework, just because he doesn't usually notice it needs to be done.
My husband makes more than I do but he's been working longer than I have. I think in a few years I should be able to catch up :)
We share the housework. He cooks and vacuums while I do dishes & laundry. Oh and he cleans the litter box and I feed the cats. Go team!
My FI is going to school, so I'm the sole provider. He hates it! He's always been very independent, and he hates having to give up some control. But he's very sweet, and he does more than his fair share of the chores. He even takes care of the litterbox!!! (Score extra points for him since he's allergic to the kitties!!)
The simple answer is that I bring home the bacon, but it's more that I have a steady paycheck whereas his income depends on winnings. When he's not traveling he takes on the majority of the housework and cleaning. Since he has a long more debt to take care of we're just living on my income right now. The perk is that it's going to seem so easy when we have two checks to live off of once the debt is decreased!
I'm the one who has graduated from school and he is still an intern (though he does get paid) so I'm making more now. I'm planning on quitting before the wedding to go back to school to get into a better job later.
i make more, but he manages money better. we split the house work, he takes the dogs, the trash, vacuuming and the dishes, i cook, do the laundry and the dusting/wiping down.
He makes more than I do. He is 7 years older than I am, so he is automatically further along in his career. Also, he is a consultant, so he can charge whatever he wants. I work in social services, with poor people, which means I can't charge crazy rates. I won't make that kind of money. If he worked in an office, we'd probably be closer in salary.
Shibaby and I are both with consultants. He's a very high level one and is four years older than I and does pretty darn good. I do pretty good also, am a nuclear medicine technologist with alot of experience so we're not hurting. Luckily our jobs are somewhat impurvious (sp?) to the economy right now thank the Lord. We had a hiccup at work a while back but that is over now.
We have two households as of now but luckily I have a lease purchase and will be able to move with little effort and he's happy about that. But he cooks and I cook and we take turns cooking dinner for each other. He's been a bachelor for several years now so he is completely self sufficient as am I self sufficient. We will have things pretty good when we finally merge lives and finances!
He makes a lot more than me! I wish I could even it up, but he lucked out in that his family owns a big construction company, so he automatically got into a really good and well paying job higher up. I'm sure it will always be that way, but who knows since I have no idea what I want to be when I grow up.
And I do all of the housework because he couldn't care less how dirty the kitchen is and would wear the same dirty pants all week, although he does do most of the yardwork.
I make more money than he does (especially now that he is unemployed), but he is a wonderful (future) house husband! He does the laundry, makes dinner, mops the floors, cleans the bathrooms - and does a much better job than I would do! :)
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This can be totally anonymous... you don't have to comment but I'd love to see the votes as far as the "statistics" of gals in the hive!
If you do feel like commenting, do you think if your/his roles were reversed as far as income, would the dynamic in the household change, like as far as who does what chores, housework, cooks, etc?