Post # 1
Not a crazy post, just wondering who is “supposed” to plan the bridal shower?
ETA: and how does it work? my mom is really uninvolved in the wedding, and we don’t get along.. and my bridal party just doesn’t seem into it. Should I just accept that it’s not gonna happen? I mean I’m not saying “I’m entitled” to one, or whatever I just guess I Figured I’d have one, and now… doesn’t look like I will and I’m kind of bummed.
Post # 3
I think it’s supposed to be the bridal party, but around here, the mother of the bride always plans it.
Post # 4
The bridal party & the mother of the bride.
Post # 5
I always thought it was the mother of the bride or another female relative? My FSMIL is throwing me one and then I’m sure my grandma/aunts/FMIL will throw one, too.
Post # 6
I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer.. it’s whoever wants to do it I suppose. In my case, my mom & my sister are planning it together.. although I’m sure mom will be the financial aspect of it.
Post # 7
I think of it as the responsibility of the bridal party, unless the mother of the bride or FMIL wants to plan it instead. Or an aunt or something. But defaults to the bridesmaids.
Post # 8
It depends on each situation – my mom amd moh planned one – my mom and bridesmaid sis planned another – but I was involved in planing and helping with both
Post # 9
When I got engaged my grandmother told me she wanted to throw my bridal shower but because of health issues she wasn’t able to. In the end, one of my bridesmaids did it. I think anyone can as long as its not the bride herself. My friend had her sister and sisters in law throw hers, another friend had her mom and sister throw it. However I would say traditionally it should default to the bridal party, but they certainly don’t have to.
Post # 10
My mom and my sister (MOH) are planning mine 🙂
Post # 11
I think it’s supposed to be a female who is not in your immediate family. So this could be your bridal party, an aunt, a long-time family friend, etc. But I think it’s becoming increasingly common to have Moms of the Bride help host too.
Post # 12
I think according to ye olde etiquette it isn’t supposed to be an immediate family member (such as mom), but I still see it quite frequently. I think it’s supposed to be the bridesmaids and/or a female relative or friend who throws it.
My mom, MIL, and a family friend hosted mine since I only had a MoH standing up and she lived out of state and couldn’t make it.