Post # 1
When I was in the mall this weekend I was trying on wedding bands at Kay Jewlers to see what looked nice with my engagement ring for fun but, ended up finding a ring I really liked that is on sale this month for 800 instead of 1000. Since I did not have a say in the engagement ring because he picked it out i really wanted to pick out my wedding band but, I know that is way more than he wanted to spend. He spent between 900- 1,ooo on the e-ring and wanted to spend less on the wedding band. I want this ring white gold 1/2 car. diamond band. Is it ok if I just pay for it and buy it myself or if he pays for some of it?
Post # 3
My husband paid for my band and I paid for his since they were gifts to each other. As far as whether it’s okay for you to buy it, I think you should probably discuss it with him first. He may be fine with it or it may make him uncomfortable. I don’t think it’s a matter of right or wrong – just what works for you two/
Post # 4
He paid for mine and I for his. His was $900 and mine $600 but we wanted to make sure to invest in bands we’ll be happy to wear for many years. So, I say get it, even if it means you pay for it, ultimately your money becomes shared when you get married 🙂 Just talk to your FI before making the purchase.
Post # 5
We both paid for each others’; we’ve combined finances anyway, so there’s no real “my money” and “his money:.
Post # 6
We paid for each others BUT mine was more then he wanted to spend so it is my b-day present too. I also paid for part of my e-ring because it was more then he wanted to spend which I dont think there is anything wrong with its important to me to LOVE my rings so I dont mind pitching in.
Have you checked out overstock they might have something very similar for A LOT less we got FH’s band on there for $300 less then jared had it for.
Post # 7
I fell in love with a gorgeous ornate eternity band, so it was double the budget of what my fiance wanted to pay. He kept asking why I needed another sparkly ring. I ended up just paying for it, but I’m glad I did, because it’s better to pay more for a band you love then trying to budget and ending up regretting it. We share so many expenses that it will never bother me that techinically I paid for my band, because he’s helping with student loans 😉
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
I totally paid for my own. Mr. G is student teaching so he has no income right now, so I just bought them both. Neither of us minded, and I got to pick out the ring and I love it!
I think, traditionally, the man buys the woman’s and the woman buys the man’s, but not everybody does it that way anymore :-).
Post # 9
as long as he is ok with paying for it, i think that’s fine. the band that FI wants is stainless steel and will most likely end up costing me $50 or less. considering how much he already spent on my ering, i will probably just get both of ours. as a PP mentioned, we are combining finances soon anyways, so at this point it hardly matters to us.
Post # 10
Since I paid for my wedding band and part of my engagement ring, I think anything goes.
Post # 11
We’ve already combined finances since we’ve been living together for a few years now…so we just went and tried on rings together, and bought them both using our shared account 🙂 In theory we bought each others’ bands? I always just say “oh yes, Peanut and I bought our wedding rings” and that’s as specifically as I think about it!
Post # 12
We have a bank account for wedding expenses that we both contribute to, and we bought both of our bands out of that after agreeing to a budget for them.
Post # 13
He paid for my engagement ring (obviously), so I volunteered to pay for both of our bands.
Post # 15
Originally, I was going to just go for a wedding band to compliment my e-ring. But, FI realllllllly wanted me to get an entirely new bridal set. We ended up finding a great deal on both of our rings. He paid for mine, I paid for his. A lot of higher end jewelers offer payment plans, maybe you should look into that.
Post # 16
he bought my band with my e-ring as a matching set, and i bought his a few weeks before the big day (eeek for procrastination)
u should talk to your FI and if he doesn’t have a problem with it, you should buy your band!