(Closed) Who pays??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i’m paying for my girls’ hair… their each doing their own make-up… it’s really up to you… i’m paying $80/head for the girls’ hair… so $50 doesn’t sound bad to me!

Post # 4
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think that if you are requiring them to have their hair and makeup done, you should pay.  If you offer it to them, then they can pay for themselves.

Post # 5
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3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My girls are paying for their own hair and makeup; I’m not requiring them to get it done so it was their choice. As for the cost, that’s going to vary a lot depending on area. Here in NYC, hair is $150 for each person and the bridesmaids’ makeup is $85.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My girls also paid for their own hair and makeup as I did not require them to get it done professionally. I did let me deposit go towards my MOH’s work and the remainder towards my mother’s balance to help them out. If I recall correctly, hair was $50 ish and makeup was $55 ish at the salon I went to.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

It is up to you. I am paying for my girls hair and makeup just because I would like everyone to have it done. I have been in weddings where I had to pay for my own hair and makeup if I wanted to get it done. Just remember if you do not pay for your girls hair and makeup you absolutely cannot require them to get it done. I was just in a wedding where the bride brought in a makeup artist to do all of our makeup but told us we had to pay for it. Not everyone wanted to pay an extra $60 for makeup and this caused quite a stir.

I am paying $30 for kids and blowdrys and $60 per updo. For makeup, it is $60 per person.

Post # 8
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I didn’t pay for my girls to gett heir hair/make-up done professionally, but I also told them it was totally fine to do their own. I paid a flat fee to have the stylists come to our hotel room, and I said that if they’d like to use them, these were thr prices (minus the fees to come to the hotel).

My MOH, mom and cousin got their hair/make-up done, and the other girls did their own.

I would have loved to pay for everyone’s, but I decided that I would rtaher give them a better gift that would last forever, and give them the option to have theirs down professionally.

ETA: as for cost, I actually think that sounds about average. I paid a lot more than that, though 🙂 When stylists hear the word “wedding” their prices automatically jump, sadly.

Post # 9
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2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I paid for my girls’ hair and we all did our own makeup.  So did my sister.

But I’ve been to plenty of weddings, where that wasn’t the case.  I think it’s a nice bonus, but you should only feel obligated to pay, if you’re making the BM’s onligated to their hair and makeup professionally done.  Otherwise it can go either way!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I should probably mention that I only had my sister and our mother’s to worry about. My sister is very good with hair especially her own daughter’s hair so she did my niece’s.

Post # 12
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding this June and I will be paying for my own hair since I’M the one that wants to get it done.  The bride couldn’t care less about my hair, haha.  I will be doing my own makeup though.

Post # 13
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68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree that if you want them to get it done, you should pay. If you give them the option, you are not obligated to pay. I asked my BMs what they’d like to do, but never told them whether or not I wanted them to get theirs done professionally. One girl said she wanted to do her own makeup, but everyone else was on board with getting their hair and makeup done. Since I’m not requiring it, I’m not paying for it. I’d like to, but at $50 for hair and $50 for makeup, it’s not in my budget. I am thinking about getting them a gift certificate to the salon to offset the cost (enough to cover hair or makeup, but not both) as part of their gift.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

If you were requiring it, I’d recommend you pay (sounds like a great deal btw), but since you’re making it an option, I’d leave it up to the BMs to pay. Or you could make it part of their gift.

Post # 15
Hostess
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I don’t think I’m going to require it, so I will give them the option if they would like it. I would probably only pay if I were requiring it. 🙂

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i paid for my girls hair and makeup just because we had people traveling to our site so it cost extra, and i didn’t want them to have to pay for my decision. by every wedding i’ve been in i paid for my own stuff.

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