Who pays for all the clothes in a Filipino wedding?

posted 2 years ago in South East Asian
  • poll: Who pays for the entourage attire?
    Everything by the couple (bridesmaids, groomsmen, ninang and ninongs) : (4 votes)
    67 %
    Only pay for bridesmaids and ninangs : (1 votes)
    17 %
    Only pay for bridesmaids : (0 votes)
    The wedding party can pay : (1 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I don’t know how they do it in other countries but in the USA the bridemaid pay for their dresses and the groomen pay for their own tuxes. You provide their flowers, corsages, boutinerres, and etc.

    Post # 3
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    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook

     

    ann3jacoba:  I’m having a Filipino wedding, but in the US.  My bridesmaids, groomsmen, ninongs and ninangs are all buying their own clothes, and I am only paying for corsages and boutonierres for ninongs/ninangs.  The ninongs and ninangs can wear whatever they want for mine.   I believe if you want them all to wear matching Barong Tagalogs or dresses then it may be a good idea to pay for them. 

    Post # 4
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    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook

     

    ann3jacoba:  Keep in mind though, if you order the clothes to be made in the Philippines they will be MUCH cheaper than getting them made in the U.S., so the cost of paying for everyone will be much less than you think it is.

    Post # 6
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    299 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m Filipina and I’ve never heard of the bride paying for the dresses. If you’re American, then follow the standards Of American culture. 

    Post # 7
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    5689 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It’s your wedding. Your bridal party wouldn’t need those clothes if there wasn’t a wedding, so you should pay.

    Post # 9
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    299 posts
    Helper bee

    Horseradish:  I read that it was in the Philippines. If your bridal party were from the states, then they would pay for their clothes. If the bridal party can’t afford the clothes, then they shouldn’t be in the wedding. 

    Post # 10
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    5689 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    ToppyAidan:  that’s cold as heck. If the bridal party can’t afford the clothes, they shouldn’t be in the wedding?! 

    Post # 11
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    2406 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Hhmm I’m not sure about a wedding in the Philippines but my BMs paid for their own dresses and the GMs as well. Ninongs and Ninangs wore their own clothes, I just gave a colour scheme. I paid for all the boutonierres and corsages, etc.

    Post # 14
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    5689 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    You will never offend anyone or anyone’s culture by being more generous than what’s the norm. Who cares what tradition says? You can afford it, and it’s grey area, so offer to pay for the bridal party’s clothes. I’m assuming that at least some of them will be coming from the US; that’s an expensive trip, which I’m sure they are happy to make for someone they love.  the gracious hostess would pay for those clothes plus whatever else she can, to relieve those closets to her of the financial burden.

    Post # 15
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    299 posts
    Helper bee

    I was born there but I’m Americanized. Sounds like you can afford to pay for the whole kit and kaboodle so go to town. Then this is a non issue. How about asking them what they can afford? And bases on my dealings with our peeps, this doesn’t fall in line with cultural sensitivity. It’s about finances. Filipino women are the most brutally honest women , including myself. Just ask them. 

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