Post # 1
I am paying for all of my bridesmaids dresses and have them sent directly to them – I ordered the dresses all a couple of sizes larger just since bridesmaids dresses seem to run EXTREMELY small.
Half of my bridesmaids dresses, I was able to get at a sample sale and the remaining three, I ordered online.
None of my bridesmaids are in New York and will be going to their local tailor/dry cleaners in order to get all of their alterations done. Since I paid for their dresses, should I ask them to send me their receipts so I can pay for their alterations or is it okay for them to pay for their alterations?
Am I expected to pay for their shoes as well?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
You are not expected to pay for any of it–bridesmaids usually pay for their own dresses, alterations and shoes. But it was really nice of you to do, and I am sure that they appreciate it very much. I think it’s fine to let them take care of their own alterations and shoes.
Post # 4
Yeah it’s totally ok for them to pay for alterations since you paid for their dresses already! Also, it might be a different $ for each girl, or some of them won’t need alterations (so it should be up to each person)
Post # 5
i think that you can let them pay for alterations since you already got the dress for them, that’s very sweet of you! usually the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses…that’s awesome that you could do that for them=)
Post # 6
That was very generous of you to pay for their dresses! Generally bridesmaids are expected to pay for their own dresses, shoes, and alterations so I think it’s fine to expect them to pay for their own alterations and shoes!
Post # 7
Since they generally pay for their dresses, your gift to them is enough
I will warn you. If someone had ordered me a dress a few sizes too big on purpose and then I ended up footing a rather large alternation bill b/c they ordered it way too big b/c they were worried that a dress runs too small I would not be a happy camper.
Post # 8
I was recently a BM for my best friends wedding and we paid $250 for our dresses and I paid an additional $20 for the bridal shop to take my straps up. Luckily for me I didn’t need mine taken in cos the two other girls were charged $40 for getting their straps taken up and their dresses taken in. We also paid for our own shoes, jewellery, hair & make-up etc. That’s so nice of you to pay for your BM’s dresses!
Post # 9
Do you think the gals would ask you to pay for them, or assume that you will?
It is possible that you could offer and some of the gals would insist on not sending you the receipts.
Post # 10
I’ve been a BM in a few weddings and no one offered to pay for the dress or alterations. The last wedding I was in cost me almost $500 for dress, alterations, shoes and hair! I think it’s extremely generous of you to pay for their dresses so they should be able to take care of alterations.
Post # 11
That is very generous of you. I think that they should pay for their own alterations and shoes. But, maybe just have them wear silver, gold, or some other color that they could easily rewear.
Post # 12
Mine are paying for their alterations. And they had to pay for part of their dress! But i am buying their shoes 🙂