(Closed) Who Pays for the Bachelorette Party?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If I go to a B-party I expect to pay an equal amount (within reason) 

I would expect the plan to be run by everone first to be sure they can afford it however.

Post # 4
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Every bachelorette party I’ve been invited to (in the bridal party and not) and my own, each person paid their own way except the bride.  I think it’s kind of rude to tell your bridal party to pick up the tab for your friends.  Let your bridal party decide who pays what, it’s not really your decision since it’s being thrown for you.

Post # 6
12 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mine is this weekend… My Maid/Matron of Honor organized it, but everyone splits the cost except the bride… Your Maid/Matron of Honor should also omit you from planning, especially when it comes to finance or budget or else the guilt may creep up on you like it already has… Relax…. All the attendees know the drill… I have one guest who tried to short change the cost bc she wasn’t going to participate in one portion… We’re talking she shorted her $10 which was wrong!

Post # 7
3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would not want to pay for a limo for your 3 other friends. This should not be a financial burden on your BMs.

Post # 8
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Agree w all the other posters. Everyone pitches in minus bride. 

Post # 9
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh god honey, your BM’s do not pay for all of your friends.

Post # 10
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@redhead46:  +1. There’s nothing wrong with expecting your friends to chip in for their own transportation. Bachelorette isn’t really like a formal hosted party, it’s more like a girl’s night out on the town. When you think from that perspective, it’s really not rude to ask them to pay their own way and you probably wouldn’t think twice of it for a normal girls night out.

Post # 12
2693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have never been to a Bachelorette party either.  But for mine, everyone is expected to pay their own way.  Even the girls not in my wedding party that are just invited to the wedding will have to pay their own way.  We’re not doing anything fancy or getting transportation, it’s just each girl for themself.

Post # 13
259 posts
Helper bee

I think the 3 that are not participating should still pay, yes they are not going to be at the wedding, but they will be in the limo at the bachlorette party. And that isn’t fair for the rest that will be in the wedding to be paying for the 3 that wont be.

Post # 14
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Everyone but the bride should pay. The Bridal Party should not be paying extra for the 3 non-BP girls to be going out with you!

Post # 15
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I had issues with my bachelorette party too. My cousin is my Maid/Matron of Honor and her husband is the best man, so they already have a lot on their plate. She had called my sister and told her that she could pay for the party but not a limo, she was wondering if my sister would be the designated driver. My sister told me and now I am giving my sister the money to rent the limo and we are not telling my Maid/Matron of Honor. She does so much and she would just feel bad if she knew I was doing it. 

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