Post # 1
Im not sure how to make a poll… but i was wondering, did you (the bride) pay for the bridesmaids dresses or did your bridesmaids pay for them? I would love to buy them but im not sure if its in my budget. just wondering what the majority does. thanks!
Post # 3
It depends. My girls paid for their own dresses, but I am paying for alterations and for their day of hair and makeup.
Post # 4
I origianally paid for them to get them ordered, and then they paid me back. Well, half of them have, I’m still waiting on the other two.
Post # 5
Typically the BMs pay for their own dresses. In some cases, the bride helps out if she wishes to. I would ask what they would all be comfortable spending on dress/shoes/alterations and stick to their amounts when choosing.
Post # 6
My girls already had their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses from another wedding, but in that one we paid for them ourselves. I’ve been in 4 weddings, 2 I bought myself, and 2 the brides bought. I think its the norm in the US (assuming that’s where you are from) for bridsmaids to pay for their own dresses. But in Asian culture, I think its typical for the bride to pay.
Post # 7
We paid for all of the bridesmaid dresses at our wedding.
Post # 8
My BMs paid for their own dresses and alterations. I feel like that is the norm for this area (mid-atlantic).
Post # 9
Usually the bridesmaids do. I will be making the dresses for my girls so I’m buying the material. The girls might chip in later.
Post # 10
Traditionally BM’s pay for their own dresses. I’m only having a Maid/Matron of Honor who is my younger sister. She’s travelling for the wedding and I wanted a particular dress which was on the pricey side but I know she loved and would wear again so I paid for it. The dress and jelwery along with spa day was our treat and my gift to her!
Post # 11
she’s taking care of alterations and shoes though!
Post # 12
The bridesmaids, unless the bride is wealthy and/or wants them to wear very expensive dresses.
Post # 13
Traditionally, the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses, alterations, hair, makeup, travel expenses, contributions to any showers/parties as well as a contribution to the gift that the bridesmaids get the bride. Keyword here is: Traditionally. Traditionally, if the bridesmaid was not at a finanancil point in her life where she could commit to the above responsibilities, she would turn down the offer (reglardless of how close she was to the bride) now a days, I feel like it’s more of, were best friends so of course I’m your BM–there’s no more thought about it past that. And I am not saying any one way is right or wrong.
I think it’s nice if the bride can help (if she chooses) but noone should call it poor ettiquette if she doesn’t.
Post # 14
My bridesmaids are paying for their dresses. I worked really hard to find a place where we could get dresses in the same/similar colors/styles that would work for several different body types/sizes, as well as keeping the price low. I was complaining that the cheapest dresses I could find were in the $60-70 range, and my BMs told me that I was crazy and that that was cheap.
Post # 15
Personally, most of the brides I’ve known have bought their BM’s dresses. I’ve only known of two who didn’t, but, once I found the Bee, I’ve seen that it’s a lot more common. Brides not paying for their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses doesn’t go over too well in my area/social circle, but that’s because it isn’t considered the “norm”. Personally, I think the bride should pay for her BM’s dresses because they are part of the overall look of her day. If the bride doesn’t want to pay for the dresses, I think it makes much more sense for her to choose a style, color, etc. then allow the BMs to choose the actual dress so they can set their own budget, pick something they actually like, etc. I realize not everyone agrees with me, but I think it is very rude to dictate a particular dress then expect someone else to pay for it. I think many brides forget that their wedding is not nearly as high priority for the budgets of anyone but themselves.
Post # 16
@Terryal87: I agree.
I think close friends/family have become “shoe-ins” for BMs. It’s often very hard to decline the invitation to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, even if one isn’t in a place where it is comfortable financially, for fear of insulting the bride/damaging their relationship. I think this is even more reason for the bride to factor the cost into her own budget (because this is her event), allow the BMs to choose their own dress (to set their own budget), or specifically say “I understand if this would be too much of a financial burden” when extending the invitation. Still, many girls won’t be eager to admit the last one, so (IMO) option 1 and 2 are much better.