- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Are your girls buying their dresses?
Are your girls buying their dresses?
Just the way I see it, but I think this is one of the incurred costs when a bridesmaid accepts to be in your wedding. My girls all paid for theirs, as well as their hair and makeup the day of if they want it professionally done.
It can go either way I suppose… I offered them the choice to do their own or have it done. That way, if someone couldn’t afford it etc, they wouldn’t feel pressured. If I required they have their hair done, then I’d pick up the bill. But if they have the option, I’m leaving it up to them.
The dress is pretty reasonably priced but yes my BMs are paying for their own dresses. I plan on paying for a makeup artist and they can do whatever they want to their hair.
I haven’t discussed this with my BMs yet but they’re all very much aware of our tiny wedding budget so I think they all expect to pay for their own dresses…. I think….
My girls all assumed they were paying for the dress. They told me to pick one out and they would go get it. I’m still waiting for them to go get it though. I was going to pay for my FG dress because her mom is one of my BMs. But her mom said not to be silly that she would get it. I’m not expecting them to buy a certain shoe or anything like that. I was talking about finding a place to get my hair done and one of them was asked me to make sure I made an appointment for her too. I asked the others if they wanted to get their hair done too. I told them I didn’t expect them to get their hair done professionally, but they wanted their hair done too. I think they just want to be with me all day.
If you have demands on what the dress looks like (like a specific dress) I think you should pay for it. But if you’re happy for the maids to chose their own dress I think they should pay for it.
I honestly do not see why they should pay to match your colour scheme, most likely it’s a dress they’ll never wear again…if it’s something they pick or something like a little black dress it’s a different story and I think it’s ok to ask them to pay for it.
I’m paying for my BM dresses but I think this is more the norm in the UK, whereas it doesn’t seem to be as much so in the US. I’ll also get their jewellery for the big day. They’re paying to get their make-up done.
I’m paying for the BM dresses. I’m only have 2 BMs, so it’s not a huge addition to the budget. Plus I was a bridesmaid in both of their weddings, and they both paid for the BM dress for me. It’s part of the BM gift, I’m also going to buy them a necklace as part of the gift.
My bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses, but we got them on an awesome clearance sale where they were only $45 each, and none of them need alterations. I think that if your dresses are reasonably priced, it’s kind of an unwritten rule that bridesmaids pay for them. I’ve been in a few weddings and paid everywhere from $50-$130 and bought the dress myself.
However, if you want your girls to buy a more expensive dress, it only seems fair that you would offer to assist in the costs. I have a friend who was venting over dinner the other night that she is in a wedding in which the bride is expecting her and the other bridesmaids to shell out $230 before alterations for their dresses! They are all in college and just don’t have that kind of money.
There are plenty of cute dresses out there for less than a fortune, so be considerate of your ladies! 🙂
I have six in my bridal party. the dresses will be about 150 each. I went out of my way to include them in the decision about the dress. They all really love the dress so I actually DO know that they will wear the dress again.
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