Post # 1
For those of you going the “traditional” route as far as who pays for what, who is paying for the flowers? I was under the impression that the groom’s family traditionally pays for the flowers, but FH’s family disagrees. (Side note: My dad can easily pay for the flowers, but this is a traditions issue, FH’s family is all about doing “what is traditionally appropriate” and I thought them paying for the flowers is???)
Post # 3
I have heard that in VERY traditional cases the groom’s parents will pay for the bride’s bouquet, but not all of the flowers.
ETA: You can see a full breakdown here http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/etiquette/grooms/expenses.htm
Post # 4
My FI parents offered to pay for the booze and rehearsal dinner, which I thought was more than generous, I thought they only paid for the RD… Good luck!
Post # 5
I read somewhere that the groom’s family is supposed to pay for the bride’s flowers. This shouldn’t be a sticking point though. My parents are paying for them.
Post # 6
I choose “none of the above”. It’s just one budget. The flowers come out of said budget. Each family gives as much as they do or don’t want, and then you go from there. We paid for a little over half of our wedding, with the groom’s family giving over 1/3, and my family the last bit.
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Post # 8
My understanding is that tradition states the the groom’s family pays for the brides bouquet. I believe they also traditionally pay for the groom’s bouteniere (sp?) plus boutenieres for the groomsmen and ushers (and potentially the mothers’ corsages).
The bride’s family then pays for the bridesmaids bouquets, any other floral decor at the church and reception, centerpieces, etc.
My mom and FMIL read up on a ton of wedding tradition / ettiquette books prior to the wedding and this is what they determined from all of their various books and research and this is what we did for my wedding.
Post # 9
Traditionally I think the Brides parent’s pay for everyting except the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 10
The Groom’s family pays for the bridal bouquet and then all of the groom and groomsmen’s flowers. The bride family pays for everything else (bridesmaid bouquets, centerpieces, church decorations, etc)