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My parents along with DH and I came up with the cost for our weddding. I was very grateful to have assistance with our wedding. However we went much more over the top than we would of if the cost was soley on us lol
We paid for everything as far as the wedding day was concerned, but his dad wanted to be traditional and pay for the rehearsal dinner. We didn't expect it; I cried due to happiness; however, we paid for our wedding ourselves.
We are paying for everything ourselves and my parents are covering the rehearsal dinner, weird I know.
We're paying for about 2/3 of it ourselves, and our parents are chipping in with the rest.
We are paying everything ourselves. I'd feel silly taking money from our parents at our age.
My mom is paying for my dress, My dad is paying for the ceremony/reception (including sit down dinner, cake, decorations, etc.), and FI and I are paying for invitations, favours, grooms tux, and all the little "extras."
My parents also went halfers (they're happily divorced) on our engagement party which included renting the lounge at The Keg, paying for all food and booze for 30 people, and a huge monogramed cup cake stand (I'm spoiled I know...).
FI's parents have declined to contribute anything (even though they make way more than my mom!). They won't even spring for the rehersal dinner, which I had always thought was the groom's parents responsibility tranditionally. So I guess for us it's mostly my dad footing the bill!
I'm not 30 yet, but I'm close and my hubby is. My parents paid for most of it. My sister is 30 and I know my parents will also pay for her wedding when she gets married. I don't think there's a cut off for us when it comes to weddings.
We are paying for everything. I think times have changed, and not everyone gets married out of High School anymore. We make more money than my family, so I would feel awful taking money from them or asking for it. Although my mom wants to pay for the wedding dress, I won't let her. I also think if you pay for your wedding, you aren't obligated to do it a certain way.
I voted for a "split." My fiance and I made our plans and budget based on what we could afford to pay for ourselves. My parents then offered us a lump sum for the wedding--and it will cover the vast majority of our costs. So it's not a 50/50 split, but fiance and I are covering certain elements like the honeymoon, dress/suit purchase, paying travel and lodging costs for some relatives to attend our destination wedding, etc.
Split in different percentages between me, my parents, him and his mom.
My parents are giving us a cash gift for being engaged for which we can use for the wedding or to elope and put towards savings etc. Its a good size chunk, but not enough to cover everything.
My mom believes that each child will get a cash gift because its not fair that daughters get a wedding when men dont. Its tradition because once upon a time, men got a business or an education to set them up in life and women got married to be "set for life". Not both genders get education, so why does only the female get a wedding? Not fair to the son. I strongly agree with her. Treat all children the same whether it is pay, partial pay, or don't pay.
My ex and I paid for it ourselves with my brother paying for my gown (sweet big bro!) and his mom paying for his tux. My parents have health problems and their money needs to go towards that and keeping their home. I think at my age now, in my 30's, if my bf and I get married I would feel wrong taking money from my parents. I'm an adult so I'll pay for the things I want, even if they could afford it. Plus, I doubt they would pay for a second marriage even if they could, lol!
I'm paying for a good chunk of it....like $5000. My parents are paying the rest. My fiance is contributing a small amount. His parents are only doing the rehearsal dinner.
So I would say its split more between myself(bride) and my parents...
I think my parents realize that I am probably going to be the only daughter who gets married...
I also think my parents are annoyed my fiance isn't really contributing much and that his parents don't want to pay for anything......
I'm paying for about 60% (my dress, venue, food, dj, invitations, favors, florist, makeup and hair, his wedding band), my FI is paying about 15% (rehersal dinner and honeymoon, his attire and my wedding band), my mom is paying for the remaining 25% (dress alterations and jewelry, photographer, music for the ceremony, booze.)
Fairly even split when taking income into account.
My fiance and I are splitting it halvsies. We are lucky enough to have talented family members who are contributing their talents and time to make it more affordable. FI's parents are doing the rehearsal dinner, and parents might throw in a small financial contribution, but I think they are still figuring what they can afford.
We are no longer sure. Our original plan was to pay for everything ourselves (we were going to have a $5K-budget laid-back picnic wedding next the labour day long weekend), but our schedules didn't align, and my family was throwing a FIT (well, everyone except my mom & her parents), so we've switched gears and are now planning a $10K February wedding at a theatre/art gallery...his parents definitely aren't contributing (his mom said they might pay for a photographer, but we were planning on asking his aunt...but we'll see), but mine do want to. But we haven't had The Talk about it yet, since a lot of the plans are floating about aimlessly without being able to firmly pin down FH's schedule.
Regardless, we are aiming to save up enough between the two of us to finance it ourselves, and if the parents contribute it will be a nice surprise. : )
my parents paid for my dress and the reception venue (just the food - there was no rental fee and we are paying for the alcohol) we paid for everything else. oh and his parents paid for rehearsal dinner.
it worked out pretty well that way since we are both working with good jobs, but then still gave my parents something to contribute to.
We're paying for it. I don't want any hassle with splitting costs. I do think we're going to end up with some cash gifts pre-wedding that are intended to help out (his mother has already said that's what she'd like to do), but we'll deal with those on an individual basis. We're not budgeting for anything we can't pay for ourselves without help, though.
My mother is paying for a LARGE portion, like over 90 %. I was sooo surprised and honored that she decided to do it. I almost bawled when she paid the entire venue cost when we booked. She paid for my dress, I paid for my shoes, she is also paying for the photog and food. And we are probably splitting the cost of chair rentals. The contribution that she gave me will completely cover the cost of the DIY flowers as well.
Its all us paying for this wedding.
For one my parents cant help out in anyway and secondly I feel silly asking for money for our wedding at our age. We have a house and everything together already.
Thats why we are eloping!
We figured that it would be us paying for the wedding and in my mind, prior to talking to my folks, I figured it would be a civil ceremony since that's all we could afford. BUT my parents are awesome and handed us enough money to not only give us an amazing (and very budget) wedding, but also with plenty extra to put into savings.
My parents gave us $15,000 after we got engaged and told us we could do whatever we wanted with it. We could use it for the wedding, a downpayment for a house, or a huge trip- anything we wanted. Of course, we are using it for the wedding!
I was really lucky. If I would have gotten married in my 20s, my mom wouldn't have been able to help much. But she got remarried and suddenly I got a wedding fund. If circumstances were different we would have paid ourselves...
His step-dad hosted the rehearsal (even though this is his second wedding).
It's mostly us, but my parents are helping a lot. I'd say we're paying 2/3 and they are paying 1/3. This wouldn't be the case if I were in my early-mid 20s!
My hunnie and I are paying for everything....but its okay...this way we'll get to do it our way because its our budget
@MsStorey: We are planning as if we are only paying. If parents offer to chip in, then we will accept it.
We had plans to pay it all ourselves, but his parents offered to do the rerearsal dinner, mom gave me money toward my dress and deposit for the venue, dad just told me last weekend that he is paying a certain amount, the pretty much pays for the reception! Wow!
It's our first weddings, although I was in a long term common-law relationship and have a son. I think my parents are thrilled that I have finally met someone who is great.
I voted my parents because they really paid for the majority. We paid for our attire (my dress was $600 and his suit/shirt/tie were $300), all of the stationery and our travel/hotel (it was a destination wedding). We also paid for our own honeymoon.
FI and I had talked about getting married away from here and doing a simple little ceremony, but my parents really wanted us to get married around here, so they are paying for most of it. We are trying to catch up after FI was out of work last year, so we really couldn't afford to do a lot had my parents not wanted to pay for it. FI's parents haven't said anything about contributing.
His parents, my mom, and we are paying for the wedding. My dad is paying for the honeymoon.
I agree that its best to just pay for it yourself if you want to be able to avoid other people giving their two cents about how you should do things! My mom is paying for my dress but thats it and luckily she is awesome and paid for it and said the one line every bride loves to hear: "Its your day honey - get whichever one you want" ;) Other than that, we are doing it all ourselves, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
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