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My mom asked me last night if my fiance was going to pay for my wedding band (not mean spirited - she just thought that was typical). I hadn't even discussed that with him figuring that we'd each get our own rings as mine is going to be way more expensive than his (as he wants a tungsten cheap-o indestructible ring and I want a platinum diamond eternity band from Tiffany's to go with my engagement ring). What do you guys think? I don't think I'm going to ask him to pay for it - the one I want is $3k and he already spent a bundle on my engagement ring. But opinions? What does everyone else do?
I don't know what's traditional, but we bought each other's rings. Granted ours were both relatively inexpensive (his was $60 and mine was $130).
We are paying for our rings together (we already have shared finances)
I bought his ring and he bought mine but they were both around $350 so it was a fair split.
We paid for ours together. Mine was about $1000 and his was $300.
I don't think that the traditional ways that people split the wedding expenses really apply anymore. It just depends on who wants to pay for this. My MIL paid for my husband's band and my dad paid for mine. My dad paid for all the expenses except for my dress and the rehearsal dinner which was paid for by my MIL. Do you have someone else who is paying for the wedding that could afford your wedding band?
I always thought it was traditional for the groom's parents to pay for the rings.
BUT... my groom's parents didn't pay for anything - so we picked that one up on our own.
I think we'll talk about it and buy them together. I mean... I work for a non-profit. He's a lawyer. I wish I could buy my own though! Mine will definitely cost a lot more too because I'm allergic to the gold mix-ins and need platinum (as we learned the hard way with my engagement ring)
Well my mom is gifting us the wedding. And his parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner - all pretty traditional. I'm not really that concerned about buying the ring - I'd just never thought about having anyone pay for it besides me. I feel like he's spent enough money on my engagement ring (and he didn't even get a shiny engagment present!). My co-worker also mentioned yesterday that she didn't get an eternity band as her wedding band because her husband couldn't afford it at the time. So maybe that is more traditional? Not that I'll let that bother me! :)
My FI just assumed we would pay for each others' and that is fine with me. After doing some looking... his will actually probably be more expensive than mine :)
MY FI designed my e-ring and wedding band as a set so he bought them together. I paid for his wedding band.
@jamaica, my FI did the same thing... he designed the e-ring and wedding band and boughtt hem as a set.
i'm going to design and pay for his band! :)
I have the exact ring you're talking about, I think :-)
We paid for the rings out of a joint wedding account. We like the idea of them being gifts to each other, so he paid for mine with his card, and I paid for his with my card, but both cards are linked to the same account, so it was really just a gesture.
We paid for them together out of our shared savings. However we'll probably pay for each others' engravings (if we get them done).
We share finances, but I think I either read that you pay for each other's or the groom pays for both (that's probably assuming the bride's family pays for the entire wedding..)
I would not want my parents to buy my husband's wedding band. It's nto included in the wedding budget and I don't think they should be buying it.
I paid for both of ours since both cost less than $500, and he piad at least 3 times that for my e-ring
Originally, he was going to buy mine, and I was going to buy his. But, mine went on sale (before we were ready to add another monthly payment) and I had the money in the bank, so I bought mine and told him he can now pick out and pay for whatever he wants. But we're also being slightly untraditional for the payment of my engagement ring. The one I wanted was out of his budget (the diamond pushed us over), so I'm paying for part of the ring. I figure, after we get married, the funds will be comingled anyway - why should he have to shoulder the whole ring payment if it's going to be "our money" in a few short months?
This is a really good question. All the budget spreadsheets have a space for it. My parents are paying for the wedding but I don't want them paying for my ring. I think we'll buy that for each other with shared finances.
We have a joint bank account so we paid for them together. Mine's a simple white gold band, and his is tungsten so they both were pretty cheap!
We are going to buy them together, our finances are all shared now, so whether we buy each others, or we each buy our own it is all coming out of the same pool of money!
He bought mine and I bought his! But they weren't so far off in price (and they were both pretty inexpensive), so it wasn't a huge deal.
I think that we will purchase them together. I don't want my parents paying for our wedding rings. That expense is not included in our wedding budget. If you want a $3000 ring - talk to him about it and then decide where to go from there.
@Jessie516 "I don't know what's traditional, but we bought each other's rings. Granted ours were both relatively inexpensive (his was $60 and mine was $130)."
We did the same thing. His was actually more expensive that mine, because he has much larger fingers and went with a thicker band. Mine was only like $75. His was closer to $150.
Oh - I didn't realize some people included them in the wedding budget. I wouldn't want my mom to pay for them - that's way too much. She's already paying for the wedding! No way. I think I'll probably pay for it myself and let him get his own ring. We've sort of half combined finances (own a house together etc) but still have separate savings/checking accounts. Its so interesting how different folks do it!
I'm including them in the wedding budget in that I consider them part of the grand total (i.e. if we're spending x amount on rings, we have to spend x less on everything else). But we'll be buying each other's rings out of our own pockets because, well, I want to look at his wedding band and know it was a gift from me, not from his parents. More romantic that way. But like I said, I do still consider it part of the budget.
We paid for ours together. I wouldn't personally add it to the wedding budget that either set of parents pay for since I would feel weird if they wanted a say in what I would wear on my finger for all of kingdom come.
I was very surprised to find out that some people buy each other's. We are paying for them together, as we have shared finances. Even if we didn't share all our money, though, I think we would have a combined wedding fund and buy them from there. We picked them out together as well.
I was drawn to your post and string of replies because I always search for "Wedding Band" because I am a wedding band -- just not the kind you wear. My ex-wife and I each paid. Each of you is asking the other for a commitment to the relationship, so each of you should own part of that token of commitment. And, if you're still looking for a wedding BAND, please look me up. John@TheMUSICofLOVE.com
We're splitting all wedding expenses equally. In his tradition he should be buying me my wedding clothes and ring, but we're pretty radically egalitarian, so we decided to split everything.
Hm, do yall have seperate bank accounts? Me & my fiance have a joint bank account so we really didn't decide that one or the other was going to pay for the ring...we just decided we would just do it together, seeing as how all of our money's in one place. We put it on layaway and are paying it a little bit at a time before the wedding. But, since it sounds like you don't have a joint account...I would just pay little bits at a time. Like, if you put it on layaway or something...let him pay once and you pay the next. Or just split it down the middle. Whatever works for yall...only you guys know how your relationship/money situation works.
He actually ended up paying for them...we are pretty much splitting the costs of stuff, so while he pays for some things (ie: dj, wedding rings) i pay for others (photographer, video, etc) doesn't really matter too much though since our money is going to be combined anyway in the future...
We are saving our money together and will be buying the rings together as well :)
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