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In an ideal world I would want my FI and I to pay for the wedding all by ourselves!
Well, in an "ideal" world, my lottery winnings would pay for it! 
But really, I voted that we, the couple would pay. If we could afford to totally pay for everything ourselves we would, because among other things, it would mean we would have total control over everything.
If the scenario is that everyone in questio can pay, then I agree that the bride and groom should pay. One, as mentioned, it gives them total control. But also, if two grown ups can afford to pay for the wedding they desire, why would the parents pay?
I would totally pay for everything myself if I had the money! I think if it was my money I wouldn't feel quite so much pulled in every direction. There are a lot of strings that come with other peoples' money!
I totally agree with the PP's! If two grown adults can totally afford their own wedding, they should just pay for it themselves. If mom and dad and FI's parents want to chip in, they can help with like, the honeymoon or gift 'em some money. I think money always comes with strings (my dad is king of being a money puppet) and it's so nice to just say "well, we want to do it this way" and do it...not "oh well, we have to do what they say b/c they're paying for it". All the weddings i"ve been to where parents have helped out (or bride's family covered it) have all been weddings where the B&G were fairly young and/or had no money. If we couldn't have afforded what we did have, I think i would have likely taken my parents up on their offer (their way or no money)
Edit: although ideally, i wouldn't want to PAY for anything, i want it all to magically appear for free!!! =]
hmm i say all three because even if you can pay the parents will want to contribute something if they can. for example they invites or flowers or something like that. i don't know if they should pick them out, i'd prefer them giving 500 to invites or for the dress, something like that.
I would definitely want to pay for it if we had the money! Then we wouldn't have to worry about fighting anyone for control of things and we could do exactly what we want!
I like the idea of it being a gift from the parents. That said, I think it should be both sets equally, not just my mom and dad! but i know my parents are thrilled to throw a huge party for all of our family and friends in the form of our wedding, and that really means the world to me.
Ideally, I would prefer for my FI and me to pay. But it's my parents and us. And I'm okay with that. They offered to help and who am I to look a gift horse in the mouth?!
I'd say all three parties pitch in EQUALLY. Again, this is in a perfect world where parents don't say "Well, since I'm helping you pay, I should have an input on your choices" lol.. I had a friend's mom do this to her in regards to EVERY aspect of the wedding. I think that's the sole reason we chose to do things this way.
I like the idea of the parents paying, kind of for sentimental reasons. It's the last big thing that they do for you as their child...
lol. In an "ideal" world, they would be free.
I think that all 3 parties would chip in.
i'm old fashioned and think that the parents should pay - part of the whole thing that the families are doing it as a gift to the couple as well as a celebration of their childrens marriage. at least if its the couple's first marriage. i think any second marriages should be paid by the couple.
In my ideal world, the marrying couple would pay for everything. I hate hate hate the idea of giving my parents another financial burden. Not everyone has the luxury of well-off parents, you know? And I'd like having total control over the purse strings.
I think it depends on everyones' feelings on the matter. I'd say the bride and groom; but I KNOW that if my parents had the money to pay for it without it being a hardship they would want to regardless and would be upset if we didn't let them. So, I would not demand we pay and make them upset.
I voted for all three parties paying, but my mom doesn't have money for much so my FI is pretty much paying for everything. I'm buying my veil, shoes, jewelry, his ring and nick-knack stuff and some other things I'm sure we'll split
i would want my fiancee and i to pay for everything, even airfare and hotel accommodations for OOT guests! but i guess my world isn't ideal yet.. :P
In an ideal world, we would have paid for it. In reality, that's pretty much what happened.
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Let's say it's an ideal world - you could afford to pay for the wedding, your parents could afford to pay for the wedding, and your FI's parents can afford to pay for the wedding. And everyone is willing and ready.
Who pays? Do you take the money and run? Are you "fair" by having everyone pitch in? Or is it not worth havivng all the cooks in the kitchen and you'd rather pay yourself? What do you think?