Post # 1
The bride and groom should pay for tuxedos for ring bearers and groomsmen. It is not fair to select a tuxedo for everyone to rent and expect people you asked to be in the wedding to cough up $200 to $400. The same applies to bridesmaid’s dresses. If you are expecting things to be ‘just so’ then you should pay for it. When you ask someone to be in a wedding you don’t tell them, “oh by the way it will be $400.” Everyone says yes when asked and it is not fair to leave people who cannot afford it holding the bag. I’m upset about this for other people I know nad I am not in the wedding. Who wants that negativity at their wedding? It can easily be avoided. If you want it, pay for it.
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Post # 5
Hmm, there have been an awful lot of these types of posts lately…
Post # 6
Not sure what’s up with these random posts, but I’ve just read a few different posts from you that seem kind of negative. Everyone does things differently and everyone has different traditions. Personally if I was asked to be in a wedding, I would automatically expect to pay for my dress/tux.
Post # 7
I agree @ithinkpink90. Unless it’s explicitly stated, I would expect to pay for my wedding attire.
Post # 8
People have the option of declining to be in the wedding party if they don’t want to pay for a tux or dress.
Post # 9
I think its a cultural thing. people from different places have different opinions. In Australia if you’re in the bridal party you pay for your own outfits. But I know that in the UK the bride and groom pay for the wedding party’s outfits. Just depends on where you’re from
Post # 10
Well, you’re not asking anything, just stating an opinion, so i’m assuming you’re clearly trying to start a debate? I don’t quite get the point of this post at all?
I however, disagree 100%
Post # 11
I think people who post this have not planned their own wedding. I used to have kind of a ‘tude about that sort of thing. Then, I started planning my own.
I will bet wannabee has not planned a wedding, or paid for one.
Post # 12
I agree that if the bride and groom are choosing what people are wearing they should cover the cost.
Post # 13
Not really sure why this is a statement and not a question.
1. “who pays” is never a clear cut thing, ethnic, social, economic, and geographic variables affect beliefs about who should contribute in what ways- there is no rule across the board
2. you are only mentioning bridal party members with a $400 expense- what about 80$ tux rentals and 130$ dresses? IN MY AREA it seems that the wedding party expects to pay for their own gear, but it comes into different territory when the costs ARE extraordinary. (wasn’t there a post a while back where the fi reaaaally wanted dresses for the bridesmaids that were around the 1000$ mark?)