Post # 1
Its probably a no brainer for some people but I’m wondering who pays for the bridal party attire? We would like to purchase suits instead of renting tuxes which will run about $100 per groomsmen including shoes, pants, vest, belt, tie and shirt. The bridesmaid dresses run about 150 and the shoes are 50. So I’m trying to see if I include this into our budget or if the bridesmad and groomsmen pay for them themselves. Also, how do you ask them to pay for them?
Post # 3
It’s up to the bride, really, but usually the BM and GM are in charge of purchasing their stuff…I know I’ll be asking all my BMs what they’re comfortable with spending before we look at dresses because I know they all don’t have a ton of money to spend or anything like that…but I want to look into buying their shoes for them since I am DIYing all of them with crystals and bows, so it’s only fair that I should help pay for the shoes since they REALLY won’t be able to wear those again…when my FH’s brother got married last year, my FH had to pay for his tux and he was the best man, so it’s pretty common that that’s what happens in the bridal party…good luck! 🙂
Post # 4
In the US the attendants normally pay for their attire, but I believe traditions are different in other countries.
Post # 5
It’s really up to the bride. Most often, the BMs pay for their own dresses unless there is some sort of financial hardship for the BM.
Post # 6
Canada & US it seems to be that the BM & GM pay, whereas at home in Ireland the Bride and Groom pay. I think this also explains the difference in wedding party sizes….if you’re not paying for it you can ask a million people to be in it!!
Post # 7
I don’t know if I would say that BM and GM in the US and Canada always/normally buy their attire. I think that is very common here, but not always the case. I have been in several weddings and have bought my own attire in about half the cases. For the rest of the weddings, the bride paid for my outfit. I decided to pay for my bridal party’s attire for my own wedding.
Post # 8
My bridesmaids are paying for their dresses. I asked them to each pick their own style as long as they are the specific color and are (or could be hemmed to be) a certain length. I hope it will increase the chances that they can wear the dresses again. They absolutely loved it, especially since I have bridesmaids ranging from 4’9″ to 6’7″ and all sizes in between. There was no way we could find one dress that looked great on everyone. And this way they will all be comfortable and they will all feel awesome because they will all look awesome.
I am paying for their shoes. I want them all to wear a specific shoe so I told them I would “gift” them their shoes. They are glittery flats so they can totally be used again, not just for a wedding.
Also I am paying for their hair the morning of the wedding because I want us all to get ready together, as one last hurrah.
Post # 9
In the US, it seems like the attendants usually pay. However, if you have the money, I think you should try to help them out. I am because our parents are giving money for our wedding and I don’t want to put a financial burden on my best friends.
Post # 10
It’s up to you!
Our GM paid for their vests, pants, and dress shirts. We gifted them their ties and socks (plus a gift card to a favorite store). We asked them to wear black belts and black shoes (didn’t specify a specific style) – I believe only one GM had to buy black shoes because he didn’t own any.
Our BM paid for their dresses and shoes. They were wearing knee length dresses, so I specified a certain pair of shoes. I found them for the girls for less than $20. We gifted them jewelry and a hair accessory for the day of – I also have them clutches (that matched their dresses, so they could wear them if they wanted) and a mirror in the clutch (with a sticker on the back, their first initial). I then added in a little pedicure set (toe separaters, nail file, etc) and a matching sleep mask.
Post # 11
Do you mean $100 for the suit? If so, that is about the price of a tuxedo, if not less!
If not, you could “gift” the GM’s the ties, etc but they be responsible for the suit. Espically in this case (more so than the BMs), they will be able to wear those suits again so asking them to pay is not a big deal.
Post # 12
The BM are buying their dresses and I will purchase shoes and other gifts for them.
My FI is paying for the rental of his GM tuxes as their present.
Post # 13
Our attendants are paying for their own. I’m paying for their hair updo’s though. I specifically had them choose cute dresses they could wear again so it wouldn’t be a waste of money.
Post # 14
I split the cost with all my bridesmaids so everyone had to pay $95 out of their own pocket. Everyone liked it this way. The groomsmen, well my Fi is buying his and his groomsmen have to either rent their own or buy whatever they want. We purchased our flower girls and ring bearer outfits because they are our niece and nephew so its a treat to them, they are only 2 :). I agree with the rest of the bees its up to the bride. If we decided to get everyones the BM alone would have been over 1000. Also about the same for the GM. 🙂 So the way we did made it fincially possible for everyone. As for their shoes that is included in my gifts to them with all the other goodies 🙂
Post # 15
It’s definitely up to you and your FI to decide. Both options are acceptable.
For my DH and I we paid for everyone’s attire, the girl’s hair and make up as well. My rule of thumb is: if we’re requiring it, we’re paying for it.
Post # 16
My bridesmaids paid for their dresses ($98) and their own alterations if they wanted them (only one actually got alterations). I paid for their pashmina shawls, footwear and jewellery (which was their gift). They were all responsible for doing their own hair and makeup or getting it done if they wanted (none did).
Our groomsmen paid for their own shirts and pants (I think it ended up being $120) and we bought them their suspendors and they just wore black shoes they already had.