Post # 1
Who pays for the MOH’s dress? i have to by my bridesmaids dress because she is my step daughter (to-be) and is only 14 at the moment. (15 when the wedding comes around)
But i was just wondering who normally pays for the MOH’s dress?
What about the Best man? do we pay or do we get him to pay?
I also know their money situation, so if i was to pick something for them to pay for i wouldn’t get something that was expensive… i would just buy the dress for my Maid/Matron of Honor but i dont want her thinking that i think she can’t afford it (she also has to fly from New Zealand to Australia for the wedding)
Post # 3
Usually the bridesmaids buy their own dresses. I covered mine…mostly b/c my mom made them. I still paid for the material and I’m treating my mom to dinner for all her hard work! However, that being said, if you pick something inexpensive and rewearable, it’s totally not an issue for her to buy it herself and it doesn’t sound like you’re going to pick out $300 dresses anyways! But, since she is buying a plane ticket, I think it’d be nice if you included it as part of her "gift" like i am. I did jewelry, hair, and dresses for my ladies as their gifts. They don’t necessarily have an armful of goodies to go home with, but they’ve all told me how awesome it is that i didn’t make them buy their own dress and then expect them to do shower gifts, bachelorette gifts, wedding gift, hair, makeup, etc. Half are still in college and planning their own wedding so I tried to be considerate. So, likewise, take into consideration their financial situations, but it sounds like you’re on top of that.
As for the best man, usually they rent their own tuxes. We picked out really expensive ones (like $170, eek) so my Fiance put $50 towards their tux so the rentals minus shoes were like $95 which is more like your average priced tux on the low end of things. Again, a nice gesture if you can afford it and you are having a small enough wedding party to lump it as a gift. Could the Bridesmaid or Best Man wear a nice suit?
Just be considerate of their money situation and you will be fine.
Post # 4
Hmm thats a good idea… i think i know the perfect store not that far from my place and i can get a couple of really nice dresses that won’t be expensive…. I completely forgot about the whole gift thing too! oooohhh now you got me thinking *makes an excited squeal* so many things that i could do as a gift… maybe i could do up like a smallish basket and have the dress.. umm some earring or necklace for the day.. umm some nice smellys… oh man i need to write this down LOL
Although i have one problem at the moment… as my Maid/Matron of Honor lives in another country we find it hard to stay in contact, i haven’t heard from her since the start of the year and i’ve sent her a dozen emails… i think it might be too much for her to fly over here for the wedding…. which is a lil upseting but i know how things are tight at the moment. We dont have any contact via phone either which sucks!
Does anyone know how to grow a tree that fruits $100 bills! LOL
Post # 5
Most of the weddings I have been in or been to had their Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs to pay for their own dresses. The guys also had to pay for their own tuxes.
It really comes down to whether it is in your budget. I will probably be helping my sister get her Maid/Matron of Honor dress because she is going through some hard times now.
If you choose to have your attendants pay for their own gear then be considerate of the price tags that come along with the dresses and tuxes.
Post # 6
i think its pretty typical for wedding party to pay for their own attire. my bms and moh are doing so, but im letting them choose their own dresses so they can determine what they are comfortable spending.
Post # 7
Everytime I’ve been in a wedding (including my own) the wedding party members have been responsible for paying for their own attire. I knew I wanted to help keep costs manageable for my Bridesmaid or Best Man, so I had them buy dresses from JCrew that they each were able to find on Final Sale. I think if you try to keep their price range in mind when choosing, they would be appreciative.
Oh and if you find that $100 tree, let me know! 😉