(Closed) who picks the bands???

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1213 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

I am pretty sure it’s custom for the both of you to go to a jewelry store together and pick out the ones you want.  That’s what I did and everyone else who is married that I know.


Post # 4
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

We just went together & found one we each liked :].  He picked out his & really loved it for the get-go!  He tried on maybe once or twice before the wedding but waited til our day to wear it full-time.  

I don’t really know though if what we did was the norm though haha.

Post # 5
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

it’s a superstition that it’s bad to wear your wedding bands before the wedding.

My e-ring came with a matching band, and we picked my DH’s band out together.

Post # 6
7196 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We went and picked ours out together 🙂

Maybe your Fiance could use this ring as his “mangagement” ring and you can pick out a different one for him to wear after the wedding?

Post # 7
2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Fiance surprised me with the engagment ring and I picked out our wedding bands.

Post # 8
659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I didnt set out to pick out my husband’s wedding band, but I was browding on the internet for ideas (husband HATES shopping) and came across a cool tungsten one with a Celtic knot design.  I showed him, he loved it, I bought it. Actually we both loved it because it was only $55 on overstock.com. Lol. We weren’t going to spend a lot on his because he’s not really a jewelry person and also because of his job, he can’t wear one for work.  

Post # 10
1784 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We wanted matching bands. I liked the ones he picked, and he didn’t like the ones that I picked, so that decided it. 

Post # 11
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

the person who is wearing it

Post # 13
1784 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@realtreegal:  Have you told him that you feel left out and that you really want to be involved in these decisions?

Post # 14
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My Fiance and I picked out my engagement ring together, because both of us knew that I would REALLY prefer to be included and make my preferences known.  I already have my wedding ring, which I picked out myself, but I did tell Fiance what I was planning on getting (plain white gold band) and he had no arguments.  We’ve browsed wedding bands for him, and I like the ones he has liked so far, but he’ll make the ultimate decision.

I think that, unless the woman’s wedding ring came in a set with her engagement ring, she should be included in the decision-making process.  It’s not like the engagement, where the man may want to completely surprise the woman.  Let your Fiance know how you feel about being left out of the process, and how it’s ok for the woman to help when it comes to the wedding rings.

Post # 15
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lol, funny post.

Him wearing the ring and all.

Usually it is the otherway round… us gals all breaking into the jewellery box before the Wedding to sneak a peek, wear it round the house when Fiance ain’t around etc.

First Wedding, my Engagement & WBand came as a set, as was the fashion at the time… interlocking Rings from the 1980s

I went out and chose a WBand for him… and “showed him it / gave it to him” as part of my Christmas Present that year

BUT NO… he didn’t wear it until the big day.

Mind you… he may have tried it on for all I know in the interim (Married in the Autumn)

This time round…

We chose my ERing together (May 2012)

And just before we married, we went out to buy WBands together as well (December 2012)

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Now wearing the whole Band regualarly BEFORE the marriage thing would bother me… I mean it is symbolic of the commitment you make on your Wedding Day… part of the Vows you take.

Honestly if he was so jazzed on having a Ring to show your Relationship Status… how come you didn’t get him an ERing ? (Men-gagement Rings can be cool)


Post # 16
4789 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I’m picking out mine and he’s picking out his. If he tries to wear it early, I’ll just hold it hostage until the wedding day.

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