Post # 1
I am a bridesmaid in a wedding in October 2012, and the bride has not designated a MOH–just 6 of us bridesmaids. She says we should all cooperate to plan her bachelorette party, but I think we all know that’s not realistic–someone has to take the lead!
None of her BMs live in the same place as her. I have probably been friends with her the longest of anyone, but I feel that since she hasn’t specifically asked ME to plan the bachelorette, it’s not up to me to take it on myself to do so (or to round up the other maids to do so). Can I sit back and watch and wait to see if anyone else steps up to the plate?
What is the latest date before the wedding that, if it looks like nothing is going to be planned, I should step up and do something, if ever? If it looks like no bachelorette is going to be planned at all, am I under any obligation make it happen?
Post # 3
If you think you want to do it, I think you should just go for it! The other girls will probably follow, and she would probably appreciate it!
Post # 4
Oh, sorry, if it wasn’t clear, I DON’T want to do it. 🙂 This bride is pretty critical, and we have very different ideas of what’s “fun,” so I’m not even sure she’d like what I came up with. I would just feel bad for her if she had no bachelorette party, and I figure something is better than nothing.
Thanks for the reply!
Post # 5
I’ve been in a wedding like that before, there was even the same number, 6 of us. What we did was split up the traditional Maid/Matron of Honor duties between us. 3 of us planned and hosted the bridal shower and 3 of us planned and threw the bachelorette party. That way the people who feel most comfortable planning certain types of events can be in their element!
Post # 6
@All In: Maybe you and the other girls could talk and see if anyone IS interested in doing it? Maybe they feel the same, like they don’t want to step up and take it over since the bride hasn’t asked, but perhaps they will want to plan the party? 🙂
Post # 7
That’s a good suggestion, maybe I will just reach out and see where everyone else is. Who knows, maybe someone is planning it and just hasn’t told the rest of us!