Post # 1
I grew up in a house where nice things for the home were an after thought. I was taught I don’t deserve stuff like that because its practical. I have decided to register for a few nice things like crystal. However, I am terrified our families are going to think we are absurd for doing so.
Has anyone registered nice upscale stuff? Did you get comments about it? I get they only need to buy what they want and that’s great by me… I just wanted to hear any experiences.
Also, do you use it often or does it sit in a box?
Post # 3
We registered for China which was an insane idea to me, we used plain old plastic plates in my house. We also registered for some fancy cheese tray and salad bowl set. $250 each. My family made comments that it was crazy and no one would buy it but his family has money and he grew upwith those nice things. We ended up getting all of it, china, cheese tray and salad bowl. We took the china back because we were never going to use it but we kept the other stuff.
I thought it was nice to register for some expensive stuff because there will be some people that want to spend more. Then you can take it back and get whatever you want.
Post # 4
@Birdee106: THANK YOU! Wonderful to hear you we’re gifted so nicely. 🙂 We aren’t doing true china. Well I guess it is real china but I consider it basic & it’s something I’ll just collect over time… Not to have actual china.
I think I’m nervous b/c I told my mom I wanted a Kitchen Aid mixer and she was really mean about it. She said that’s too expensive… no one will get that for you. Since then I’ve been worried.
Post # 5
Well, I’m not in the same boat as you because in my house we did have nice things like china, crystal, real silverware, etc. We’re from Russia so opulance and nice things is the norm.
I registered for nice items like china, crystal, expensive pots and pans, a kitchenaid mixer, etc. No one ever made any comments about it and we did end up receiving all those items that we registred for.
My advise is don’t worry about what people think. Register for what you want. People will buy you whatever they want to buy you.
Post # 6
@Coral99: It doesn’t hurt to put it on there. If no one gets it for you then whats the big deal? She doesn’t have to buy it.
Post # 7
We did not have nice things either which is why my mom insisted that I add China and Crystal to my registry. I thought it was ridiculous (especially in this economy), but I added those things anyway to please her. I did not get much of any of those things. One vase. and two of the China place settings….I am grateful, do not get me wrong, I was very surprised that someone would actually buy those things….but I could have easily gone without them too. I have yet to use either, the vase is on our mantle but the china is still in the box.
It would be great to have those things if you ever plan on hosting a nice dinner, but otherwise…if you do not think you want or need these things…do not add them…
Post # 8
@Birdee106: That’s what I said. Lol. To me a registry is a guide, not a mandatory go to.
Post # 9
I was told you should have a good range of prices on your list. KitchenAid mixers are a normal item to put on a registry. What’s the worst that could happen? You just don’t get the mixer! Put what YOU (and FI of course) want on there 🙂 Just make sure you include some cheaper items as well.
As a side note my FI wants to put a set of race wheels for his bike on there. He’s convinced some triathlete we’re inviting will buy them for him. They’re massively expensive. Who knows someone might want to seriously gift him lol
Post # 10
@lizardloo: I think that’s very cute! And if I had the money that’s totally something I would buy.
Post # 11
@Coral99: Man he would be so jazzed if someone actually bought them for him. I could actually see my Dad doing it. Now if only we had the room to store more triathlon gear!
Post # 12
We only registered for china, silverware and crystal. We live in a condo that’s full to the rafters and we wanted our wedding gifts to be things that would last forever.
That said, we both grew up in families that had such things.
If anyone made comments, they certainly weren’t to us or our parents (unless our parents declined to tell us, but we mentioned to them we were slightly worried about price point.)
Post # 13
I love my china. We received all 12 place settings and all 12 of our flatware (which is nice, but not silver) as gifts from my family. We also received some of the serving peices and I just got the cream and sugar for Christmas.
I love nice things and grew up with them, although my mom doesn’t have china. His parents have more money, but never spend it. They wrote us a HUGE check (which we gave right back since they had financed his 2nd mortgage and then that was paid off).
I knew one couple who received only 2 place settings of china and returned it because they wouldn’t use if it they didn’t get it all…. but… that’s all you need for two of you! I’ve used my china only once, and it was for the two of us. Fancy plates make everything nicer.
Post # 14
We registered for china and nice flatware, but not crystal. I did still receive crystal from relatives. We use the china and flatware every Sunday night for dinner whether it’s the two of us or more people. No sense in having nice things if you’re not going to use them!
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge
China, crystal, and silverware was the norm among my mom’s family (although silver has been nixed in mine and all my cousins wedding due to the insane price increase since the 70s). DH grew up without all these items, but he likes nice things so he was cool with it.
We registered for formal china, everyday china, some Christmas china, Riedel glassware, decent stainless flatware, and silver-plated bowls. We received almost all of those items, though mainly from my relatives and our friends. His relatives gifted more of the practical items. Nobody commented on our choices – though I did make sure to check about our registries with my mom.
Post # 16
We registered for a full China set, as well as nice wine glasses and some crystal. There’s NOTHING wrong with it. In fact, many older guest WANT to buy you those traditional kinds of gifts.
That said, if you’re really not going to use it, register for something more useful to you.
Why do you care what people will think of what you registered for? Frankly, it’s none of their business and they aren’t the ones who need to live with the items. Also, if they don’t like the crystal you register for, then can buy you something they deem more “appropriate” or “practical”.