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FI and I were discussing who were more incline to say I love you first between men and women. Since we both came to different conclusions I decided to poll the experts. So who said it first?
He said "I think I love you" first, and then I said "me too." I'm not sure when we first actually said I love you because he was so cute when he said it that that's what stuck in my mind.
Bet you didn't think anyone would choose "other" because it seems so impossible when there's just 2 people but here's how it went:
We were at a concert and it was his favoritest band in the whole entire universe so he was very excited. He accidentally spit on me while screaming over the noise about something so I made a face and he said "I only spit on you because I love you!" and went back to dancing/singing along. So do I count that?!!? I decided not to. 3 weeks later with no other I-love-yous I said it for real to him when we were saying goodbye for a long time and he said it back and then we've said it at least once everyday since. This was 6 years ago!
So who said it first? I have noooo clue!
I'd felt it for weeks but was determined not to say it first. (Background with both his past relationships and mine.) I was thrilled when he finally said it and immediately said i love you too!
He did! He was like "I love you"... "and all that good stuff" -it was really early and he just kind of blurted it out in the conversation so I think he was trying to ...cover it up a little bit :)
@LaurenK0105: LOL
He said it first. Two weeks prior to that, we'd been laying on a blanket watching shooting stars and I realllllllllllly wanted to say it. But I didn't because I didn't want to scare him off! When he said it those two weeks later, the way he brought it up was "Remember two weeks ago when we were watching the stars? I wanted to say I love you..."
Great minds think alike, I guess? :)
I said it first, we had both had a few drinks and were slow dancing at a wedding. I had been thinking it for a long time, and the words just spilled out of my mouth before I could stop them. I like to think that it's because I loved him so much I couldn't hold it in any longer. He said it back without missing a beat and said he'd been wanting to say it too (why he thought it needed to be a special moment and not just any regular old time is unclear to me). It was 9 months into our relationship.
Oh for the record I said it first. I had been feeling that way for a couple weeks and just couldn't hold it in anymore.
Me, also in a drunken stupor...Before that we weren't exclusive. When I woke up the next day with an awful headache he asked me if I meant what I said last night. I was like "mean what? I don't remember anything". He looked crestfallen and said "well you said you loved me". Me: "Oh..Well since I don't remember I can take it back and we can pretend it didn't happen. " He said "please don't". Yay :) It still took him three days to recover from the shock and say it back to me (he says it was his first time ever and he wanted to say it the right way) and ask me to be his girlfriend exclusively.
We were only 16, and had already been together 9 months. we went for a walk on our favorite trail and I told him that I loved him. After saying it back, he told me " I've been waiting forever to say that". He was nervous to say it first lol! For some reason though, he has it in his head that he said it first and still argues it to this day. (that was 8 years ago now)
He said it first! He said he fell in love with me when he was in Iraq so I waited a very long time to hear it. He wanted to say it in person for the first time. :)
I love this thread!!!
He said it first, but I knew the moment that I met him that I loved him first :-)
I had been in a horrific relationship prior to being with him, so I was bound and determined not to let my my heart lead the way.
He said it first on our first vacation together to Florida. It was Valentine's day, and I was so shocked to hear it that I didn't say "I love you" back right away. I felt it, but I guess it kind of had to sink in.
So the next day, while we were parasailing, I said it back. That was a good day. :)
My husband told me that he loved me the same night he asked me to be his girlfriend, 2 days before our first date. I was so surprised I said "Thank you" and didn't know what else to say. A few days later he said it again and I replied in kind.
He said it first, but he was talking in his sleep so I don't know if it really counts! He had a girlfriend prior to me that was known for moving too fast and being a ring chaser so I wanted to make sure to wait for him. He woke me up in the middle of the night and said "I love you baby" I said "WHAT?" he repeated himself and then didn't say anything for a few days when I asked if he had meant what he said.
@maisymay: Hehehe... My best friend said "Thank-you" to her now husband the first time he ever said I love you to her. I kind of tease her about that, but only out of best-friend love. :)
He did! In a text he told me he was falling for me.I had been wanting to tell him from the start :)
We kinda said it at the same time when we first said "I love you"... It's a really long complicated story. Basically, I was writing him a letter when he drove by my house and honked three times.. we still laugh about how we were passive aggressively saying "I love you" at the same time.
But, I told him I was falling in love with him first. Which was really only a day or two before we said "I love you"
I voted "other"!! I asked him! He said yes, he loves me. And I said "good, because I love you too!
I said it first and it didn't go that well. Almost broke up over it. We had a long discussion and dropped it, and after a few long months, he said it too. And it's not like we just started dating when I said it, but for him, saying I love you equates to saying I want to marry you, so it was kind of a big deal.
He said it first. My Sophomore year in college, my Mom called me and told me they had to put down our dog (the one I'd had since childhood), and I cried and he held me and that's when he told me he loved me for the first time. It was very sweet.
Well, technically I told him first but here is how it went:
Him: I have something to tell you
Me: What (I knew he was about to drop the l bomb)
Him: I um, I um (he has this totally, totally pained expression on his face. I've never see anything like it)
Me: Would it help if I said it first?
Him: Yes
Me: "I love you"
So really, it was kind of mutual
DH said it first, and I didn't hear him the first time, so he repeated it. Then I was too happy to fully believe what I was hearing, so I asked him to say it one more time. He's never let me live it down that I made him say he loved me three times before I said it back.
I have never said I love you before the guy did in any of my relationships, now that I think about it. But IMO most of the guys I went out with before DH said it wayyyyy too early.
My first boyfriend I said it first...but I realized he wasn't ready for that. SO for the next relationships I had, including my now SO...I let the guy say it first. Mostly because I can be....clingy. >.>
I'd rather them say it first so I know we're both on the same page, not because I'm pushing him to.
This is pretty much the only thing I can't remember. Wish I knew.
@missbiscuit: It was about the same for me, too. Lame previous relationships. . .
FI said it first. He sat me down and told me he needed to talk to me. After about 3 minutes of him beating around the bush I told him to "spit it out man"...then he told me that he had fallen in love with me. I was smiling so hard I thought my face would crack. He asked me how I felt about him and I sang "Somebody loves you baby" by Patti LaBelle instead of answering directly. He LOVED it. We laugh about it now b/c he said that I told him that "somebody" loved him...not me in particular.
I voted "other".
I told him that I thought I was falling in love with him first, during second period in high school (neither of us had class that day). I was absolutely terrified because we had just started dating and I had a few tears slip out. He told me he felt the same way immediately after, which was a huge relief.
He told me "I love you" three days later... via e-mail. He thought that we'd said it before, I didn't but ah well. (So who knows, maybe I'm wrong here!) It was a pleasant surprise to open my e-mail and have an apology for missing my call and an "I love you" staring back at me.
he said it first, within 1.5 months of knowing each other :) i said it back 2 weeks later.
Um yeeaaah, we were at Disney World and we went to a club when they had all the clubs open in Pleasure Island, I happened to get a lil sloppy and it just came out. lol. I wake up in the morning and ask him if he remembered what I said last night and his response was "yes, I love you too" !
So romantic haha, but he had mentioned that on that night when we were watching the fireworks at Epcot, he wanted to tell me at the right time, but a huge cocaroach ended up in my beer. So he felt like that wasnt the time. haha.
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