Post # 1
I have a very LARGE and very close family. My FI and i are working on a tight budget, and he told me last night to cut the list (Which now stands at 120). Now I have 9 brothers and sisters, a container load of Aunts and Uncles (both from my mother and father side of the family)
Another question, on his side of the family his uncle have two sons both above the age of 18. Do i give each of them a seperate invite. (I know cousins….leave them off, but apparently, they grew up together and are very close)
Post # 3
Give the cousins a separate invite only if they live in a different household.
Maybe think about cutting the plus ones? We are only inviting married, engaged, living together, dating for more than 1 year. No flavor of the month can come to my wedding! When it comes to budget people will understand.
Post # 4
You might think about grouping your invites in waves, since you’ve got a ways to go. First wave are all definitely coming, plus people who may or may not. If your RSVP is early enough, you can invite a second wave of friends, locals who wouldn’t mind getting an invitation a little later.
Post # 5
DH has a VERY large family so this is what we did….
We did immediate family: Parents, Siblings, Grandparents
and friends that we’re close too
Also, He is very close with a handful of cousins, which I too know b/c we all serve in our Young Adults group at Church…. so we invited them.
But not their parents or any other Aunts/Uncles
We did +1 for Bridal Party (if they were already in a relationship with their +1)
and for Married and Engaged guests… otherwise no +1… we didn’t want/have funds for people to get a date just for the wedding.
We made alot of family mad (all on DH side) but it worked for us and our Day was GREAT!
Tip: You can’t please everyone… believe me.. you’ll try, but it’s not possible so you and your FI get together, see what works for ya’ll, and support each other in that decision, and stick too it.
Post # 6
Oh yes, large families, can make wedding planning so much fun.
My list is just over 80 people, 4 of those being couple friends, the rest family. He has more friends invited but he has a smaller family. Our total list is 160. Luckily I’m friends with most of his friends so this works well.
We did grandparents, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles & cousins. I m close to most of my cousins though.
+1’s only for married, engaged or long term relationships. So I have a lot of people invited solo for my side.
In a perfect world we will get about 40 no’s. But I guess we will see.
Post # 7
Good! i like that…….some people are going be mad.