Post # 1
Growing up in my family it has always been my mom, my two older brothers, and myself. When we were very young our uncle was very close with us and around a lot and so much fun. As we got older life got in the way and we became less and less close with my uncle and hardly speak anymore. We are still on really great terms, it just faded.
My oldest brother is the coolest person I know. Him and I are so much alike and I have always had so much respect for him, and my second older brother and I are sibling close, but not personally or socially close (he also has classic middle child syndrome where he thinks my oldest bro can do no wrong and im the spoiled little girl)
And my mom is amazing and is my best friend!
I do not know who should walk me down the aisle?? If I have my mom it would be win win but she and I think that would be weird and it should be a male plus she wants to watch me walking. I could have my uncle, but I never considered him until he got sad about it. AND if its brothers I can ONLY have one or neither because one of them has to be my fiance’s third groomsmen, he doesn’t have anyone else.
Would it be messed up to have my second brother be a groomsmen and my oldest brother walk me down the aisle? Im just worried about further alienating my second brother…
Post # 3
I’m not sure who to tell you to pick, but I am having my brother walk me down the aisle AND be a groomsman. It might look uneven for a minute between the wedding party walking down the aisle and when I walk down the aisle, but who cares? It’ll be fine for the rest of the ceremony.
Post # 4
I had the same situation. I didn’t want my dad to walk me, because he hasn’t been there like he should. I grew up with my mom (stepdad bu tthey’re now divorced), two younger bros, and younger sister. The easiest thing for me was to walk down by myself. It was the best decision for me. I did have my entire immediate family (mentioned above) all step forward/stand to “give me away” though. It was awesome!
Post # 5
i would choose mom or older brother. have you asked your mom what she thinks about it? she might love being able to walk you down the aisle.
you could also have both of your brothers walk you down the aisle.
Post # 6
@kitzy:I agree. I think having both brothers would be a good solution.
Post # 7
@PrncssDva:OMG you’re really walking down by yourself?? I totally want to do that but didn’t think it would be received very well!! I’m extremely non-traditional and I just think the “giving away” part is kind of queer…for me that is. I know it’s a very emotional and important part of the ceremony for a lot of people. However, my father passed away when I was younger, I’m not that close with my step-dad, and my mom would be crying like a baby. So, you really think it’s ok to walk down alone?!
Post # 8
I am walking myself down the aisle and we are actually having our ushers stand up with the groomsmen because I feel they do as big a role in the wedding. So our wedding party line up will be uneven but if your arent wanting to walk yourself I wouild say have both your brothers walk you and then join your groom. just a thought though, I know tradition means a little more to others.
Post # 9
@PollyPlanner: I hate the whole “giving away” thing too. I’m walking myself halfway down the aisle, and FI is meeting me at the halfway point, and we walk the rest together. I was originally going to walk myself the whole way, but my family had a problem with that for whatever reason, so I compromised.
Post # 10
Im in the same situation, My father chose not to come to my wedding which initially made me realllly upset… We have never been on bad terms, out of my older sister and my two younger brothers I have always been the one to keep in contact with him after my parents had a really bad divorce..He is now remarried and doesnt really care about my brothers ,me or my sister. I invited him to my wedding and told him it would mean alot to me for him to come and even followed up with him after I mailed an invitation..He told me he wouldnt be able to come and he wouldnt be able to send me a gift either (money) …So now Im asking myself the same question..who will walk me down the aisle ???
Post # 11
I would go with your older brother – it sounds like a sweet choice to me!
Post # 12
wouldnt it be funny/great if the whole fam can walk you out? u in the middle and theyre huddled around you. Haha no idea why i thought that when I read your post.
Post # 13
My mom is walking me down and is very very excited about it. 🙂