Post # 1
I am the Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister’s wedding. I am throwing her a bridal shower. I asked all the bridesmaids to pitch in $40 each and make a basket. There are 8 bridesmaids including me. The shower is going to cost around $1000 and after each of them chip in their $40 I am paying the remaining balance. I have been the one making all the decisions, booking the venue and buying and sending the invitations which haven’t been sent out yet. On the invitations I bought, there is a section for hosted by: Who should I put as the host for the shower. I don’t want to upset anyone but also none of them are helping me out in any way except for paying money and making a basket. I have asked all of them for help and no one will respond to me. Any advice on this would be really appreciated.
Post # 3
Well, as the person who seems to be doing the majority of the planning and paying, I would say you should put your name down as the host. The name of the host on the invite should be the person who has had the most input, which appears to be you. If the other bridesmaids had put as much effort in, then it would only be fair to put them down as well. You shouldn’t worry about upsetting or offending anyone. After all, you’re the Maid/Matron of Honor for a reason. The bride obviously chose you because she knew you would be the most reliable person for the job. If you still have concerns, you should ask the Bride for her opinion. Hope this helps x
Post # 4
If they chipped in anything, I would think there could be hurt feelings if you didn’t include the bridesmaids in the hosting line. But I think there is middle ground here – could you write Hosted By: Maid/Matron of Honor (your name) and the bridesmaids
That way you are called out and it will be understood that you did the most but others still get credit for their contributions.
Post # 5
Based on what you’ve said, it seems pretty clear to me that you are the host. If I were a bridesmaid who’s chipping in money for the shower, I would *never* expect to be the host if that’s all I’ve done.
Post # 6
@Sking: oh, I think that’s a great idea to have it hosted by Maid/Matron of Honor and the bridesmaids 🙂