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Who should pay for the dinner at an appointment?

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    SaraRocks    October 16, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    I just made an appointment with a photographer for drinks/dinner. I know it should be that the person who extended the invitation should pay for the meal, but should I really expect her to pay? I just don't want it to be awkward. Has anyone else run into this situation?

    Thanks in advance!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Could you pay for your part and then she pays for hers?

     
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    Blueshoes2    June 2010   PA

    I'd just go in with the mindset that you're going to pay for your own meal.  If she decides that she wants to pay for your meal too, then let her, since she extended the invite :)

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    In this situation, I agree with MissAsB. I would expect to go dutch. I don't think the photog will expect you to pay for anything and I don't think she's expecting to pick up the entire tab, either.

    This is usually why I prefer to meet clients at places like Starbucks, haha. That way, the only thing I have to worry about is picking up a coffee if it feels right. 

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    After thinking about it, when I met our DJ, we each paid for our own coffee at the coffee place.

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I would expect to cover your own.

     
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    naangel55    June 20, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    If she invited you I would think she should offer to pay, however I agree with others that I would go in with the mindset of paying for myself.

     
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    amariem25    October 2009  

    dutch!

     
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    SanDiegoAli    September 18, 2010   San Diego

    Another vote for dutch!  We did pay for our officiant's meal when we met with him though.  We weren't around food for anyone else.

     
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    Nexus-6    March 12, 2010   Portland

    When we met our photog, he paid, but we were also meeting at a coffee shop, not for dinner. I thought it was really generous, and had prepared to pay for myself.

     
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    SaraRocks    October 16, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    Cool! Hopefully this meeting will go well! She seems like a really nice person and has GORGEOUS pictures! (lindsaymacdonaldphotography.com if anyone is looking in Baltimore/DC)

     

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