Post # 1
My parents are paying/hosting our wedding. They live 2 hours away from my fiance and I. When we send out our invitations, who should I put on the return RSVP envelope? Should guests be sending their RSVP’s to my parents or to my fiance and I?
Post # 3
My mom wanted them to go to her, and my FI wanted them to come to us. It was my first bridal meltdown because I didn’t know what to do or who to agree with. Ultimately, everything came from my parents, with the response cards being returned to me. Part of me wishes that they would have gone to my parents for the traditional aspect.
Post # 4
Really it doesn’t matter who they go to, as long as whoever gets them doesn’t mind having to keep track of them. I have a friend who is marrying in a few months and having the RSVP’s go to her sister because her sister has volunteered to manage the responses.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
Traditionally they should go to whoever is hosting the event. My FI and I sent our invitations with our return address stamped on them and the RSVPs came back to our house. My parents live an hour away and they are constantly out of town so this was just easier. They didn’t seem to mind either.
Post # 6
@Sea_Ashley: My parents are paying for the majority of our wedding.. but I insisted the RSVPs come to our house. That’s part of the fun, opening the mailbox each day & seeing who’s coming/not coming! It’s up to you, if you want to get them send them to you.. if you don’t really care send them to your parents.
Post # 7
traditionally the person hosting the wedding receives them. They are the ones who need the final head count and names
Post # 8
Techically it should go to the host, but I think its fine to go to you if you’re handling the guest list logistics. My parents are hosting but I’m doing all of the planning so I had the RSVPs come to my house.
Post # 9
They go to whomever the hostess, your mother, wishes to receive them. Etiquette allows her to have replies directed to her social secretary if she has one, so she may certainly have them directed to her daughter if that is what she wants.
Post # 10
@X0JLYNN03: I know! I already can’t wait to send out the invites so I can start getting them back, haha. I just know that this is going to be the next heated discussion that my mother and I have so I am trying to prepare myself. Sounds like you are in a similar situation to me! Thanks for the advice!
Post # 11
@aspasia475: I didn’t know that – thanks!
Post # 12
You. Since you’re probably the one planning!