(Closed) Who Should Walk Me Down the Aisle?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Who should walk me down the aisle?
    My Dad : (2 votes)
    18 %
    My Pastor : (8 votes)
    73 %
    Both : (0 votes)
    Neither of them : (1 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    it doesn’t sound like your dad deserves to be a part of your ceremony — invite him as a guest, nothing more!

    Post # 4
    144 posts
    Blushing bee

    I agree with Daydreamer.  Whoever means the most to you can walk you down the aisle or you can walk by yourself. 

    Post # 5
    1740 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    how about your mom??  she can walk you down the isle 

    Post # 6
    1232 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I don’t have the greatest relationship with my father either so I’m walking alone. I’m really excited about it and I think it looks really pretty to hold the bouquet with both hands

    Post # 7
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Typically your pastor doesn’t walk you down the aisle. Perhaps you can put a special note in your program in regard to how you feel about him. Your father doesn’t seem to really care about you. If it were me, I would not even invite him to the wedding. From what you have stated, he doesn’t deserve to have a daughter as good as you are. That being said, if I were you, I would walk alone or have your mom walk you.

    Post # 8
    637 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    To me, the person who walks you down the aisle should be the person who loved you and cared for you and took care of you (in a tangible sense or emotional sense), and shouldn’t necessarily be for someone who happened to donate sperm X number of years ago.  If you love your pastor and he has been in that role for you while your dad has not, and you WANT him to have that role, then by all means I think that you should do it!!  

    I was going to have my mom walk me down the aisle, but now she is going to be officiating.  Then I asked my uncle who has always been there for me, but he recently had hip surgery, so he cannot do it.  My mom was throwing out random other male family members, but no one who came close to being that way for me (no relationship with father–not even telling him I’m getting married).  So, I’m just going to walk myself! 

    Definitely do whatever you want & whatever would mean the most to you.

    Post # 9
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    You’re dad is alive right? He may not deserve to have the honour of walking you down the aisle but it’s tradition. My parents are divorced and I was mostly raised by my mom, my mom asked if she could be the one to walk me down the aisle but I said no mom that would be weird lol. So I asked my dad and he agreed full heartedly we may even dance the “father daughter dance”. I say just ask him and only have someone else walk you down the aisle if he says no. Just ask the worst that could happen is that he says no. Good luck and congrats!

    Post # 11
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Do you have any brothers? That might work…

    Post # 13
    234 posts
    Helper bee

    The person who ‘gives you away’ is supposed to be someone you love and care for, and someone who has returned that love. He does not seem to be a person who has had the most positive infuence on your life. That moment is supposed to be so special for the bride, and if it is going to be with someone who shares your genes, but someone toward whom you harbor some resentment, the moment will not be so meaningful. You should choose someone (male or female) who has had a significant part in your life; someone who has more of a right to ‘give you away.’

    Post # 14
    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would say either invite your father as a guest and have the pastor walk you down, or walk down yourself, this would be very beautiful. In the end it is all about what you want, just really sit down and think about it!

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