(Closed) Who should walk me down the aisle!?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Who should walk me down the aisle?
    Dad : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Mom : (13 votes)
    42 %
    Mom & Dad : (10 votes)
    32 %
    Brother : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Grandpa : (6 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I voted brother because that’s what I did in my own, very similar situation. My brother is also younger but like you said, he is the second most important guy in my life as well! Your mom would also be a great choice but I decided to not choose one parent over the other. I also liked the tradition of being “given away” by a male family member, but that was just me. I agree that it would be a slight to your other grandpa and his family, so I wouldn’t choose your maternal grandpa.

    Good luck! I know how tough this is but I was so happy with my decision the day of.

    Post # 4
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    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I went for “Mom & Dad”–but I’d have your FI escorted by his mom and dad, too.  That would make it more like both of you are celebrating creating a new household together, with the support of everyone who was involved in raising you.  Then again, I have a hard time with the concept that a woman old enough to be married can be “given away.”

    Post # 5
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    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    I voted for mum, but I liked Danielle’s reason for choosing the brother (i.e. so parents can’t get upset if one was chosen over the other). A friend of mine chose her brother for much the same reason. Your other options are to walk by yourself, or walk in with FI. I think I’d probably ask your mother first – she might not want to be the centre of attention, or she might think it’s more important for your dad to take on the role. Good luck, it’s a hard choice!

    Post # 6
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    20 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    mom all the way. screw traditions and hurting peoples feelings. she’s your absolute best friend and will be forever and it sounds like she sacrificed a lot for you. she DESERVES it most of all.

    Post # 7
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Cross dad off the list. Whether you take care of someone or they take care of you is moot and has nothing to do with it. Pick the person you are closest to and feel the most comfortable with.

    Post # 8
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    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Idk if you’re comfortable with this or not, but what about going by yourself? My parents are divorced and I’m more close with my stepdad and don’t really want to hurt anyone’s feelings, plus I wish I knew my biological family and one of them was able to do it, but it will be just me. 

    I really like the symbolism of me walking down the aisle to my fiance to start our life together. 

    Post # 9
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    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    for your situation, i would go with mom and dad, or mom if you dont think dads feelings would be hurt.

    it doesnt sound like its an appropriate role for ur brother, and i think having your gpa replace ur dad would hurt dads feelings more than replacing him with mom.

    i am not close with my stepdad, (i dont have another dad) and it wouldnt mean anything to me to have him walk me down. so my 2 older brothers are going to walk me down. my younger brother will probably walk my mom. and my stepdad will walk his mom, i think.

    Post # 10
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    34 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’m having a hard time since I’m in a similar situation as well. My fiance’s dad actually volunteered since my dad is kind of MIA. It’s tricky. I do think walking down the aisle alone is acceptable too.

    Post # 11
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    91 posts
    Worker bee

    I will have a very similar situation when I get married. I will probably do my Mom and Dad to avoid conflict, or quite possibly walk down the aisle alone. I don’t think its my fathers right to “give me away” so I know for sure that when the Minister asks “who gives this woman to be married” it will be my Mother who answers “her family and I” that way she will be the one speaking and those close to me will know that really it’s her and my Grandfather.

    Post # 12
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    759 posts
    Busy bee

    Definitely your mom.  You seem to be closer to her than anyone else.  My mom was my best friend too and if she was alive she would be the one walking me down the aisle for sure!

    Post # 13
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    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I had to make the same choice!  I went with my grandfather.  #1 Do not worry about who’s feelings you are hurting.  It does not matter who you pick someones feelings will be hurt so just take that argument out.

    I was so torn between my grandfather or my mom, but I chose my grandfather over my mom, because that is what she wanted.  She did not want that role on that day.  She was honored that I considered her and happy that I chose my grandfather.  And I was happy too.  Think about what it means to have someone give you away and then look at your reasons you have listed up there.

    Can you talk to your mom about it or someone close to her that can give you insight on her feelings?

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