(Closed) Who should walk me down the aisle?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You should have whomever you feel closest to walk you down the aisle. Do not let anyone else’s opinion ruin what should be a beautiful and special moment for you. Let the haters hate because in the end – that walk down the aisle isn’t about them. It can only ruin your day if you let it…and you shouldn’t do that to yourself. If FI’s brother or father is willing to be there for you, that should spark GOOD whispers. Whispers of how loved you are by FI’s family, how beautiful you are and how blessed you are to have such lovely and supportive people in your life. 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Double post.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’s not the same, but I do have a similar situation. I love my dad but he didn’t have thelarger part of raising me and my sister, my uncle did. Some people may tell you that it is his right, well I feel it’s a right that should be earned. I have had many people not agree with me on my decision, but I am walking myself down the aisle. I didn’t want my dad to do it, but I also didn’t want to hurt his feelings (as I said our situations are a little different).  What I am going to do is have my mom and dad and my aunt and uncle meet me at the end and the whole family can give me away. And people can just be fine with it.  I think you’re fine deciding whom ever you want.  

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Double post :/

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know you say your mother is disabled, but unless you’re getting married in a church where the aisle is narrow this may still be a possibility even if she’s in a wheelchair. Maybe try a test run before you rule her out. If you’re getting married outside just make sure they space the chairs a bt further apart to give space.

If your mother really isn’t an option, and you’re not opposed to a first look you could also have your FI walk you down! It’s not conventional but it’s your wedding, and I think the idea is lovely. 🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would say have your FI Brother or Dad walk you down. Thats what i would do!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Random ques – but you said your aisle involves stairs, but does it level out? I imagine that your mom would be at the ceremony, meaning she has to reach the final destination spot (being your ceremony,) so what about if she met you half way?  

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

You could also walk a little bit by yourself and have  you FI come to meet you- maybe you’ll be able to hold it together long enough?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it would be nice to have your FI’s dad do it; I’d assume his brother will be up with him as a GM? And I agree that people may whisper about why you don’t have your dad doing it, as they don’t understand that relationship, but if anything I’d think HE would be the one who has to deal with those questions.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AnnieAAA:  That’s what I was thinking too. If part is stairs, part is level maybe you come down the stairs part alone and she takes you the rest of the way?

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldnt worry about the awkward questions.  In my experience, people tend to ask other people the awkward questions, so you will never know about it. If they do ask you awkward questions, just smile and say because that is what we decided.  Then change the subject.    I would have your fi dad walk you down the aisle.  I think he would probably be honored that has fdil asked him to do so. 

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