Post # 1
A little back story first. I was adopted at birth and then my parents divorced when I was five. My mom remarried and I had a great stepdad. I would have had him walk me down the isle but they divorced two years ago and it was pretty messy. Around two years ago I was able to track down my birth family and have become close with my sister, she is going to be one of my bridesmaids, and my grandfather. My birth father has still been distant, but I am very close to my grandpa and would prefer to have him walk me. The dilemma is I don’t want to insult my grandfather by asking him over my father, his son. I also don’t want to hurt my mother. She keeps saying she thinks she should walk me because she was the only one that has been there for me my whole life, which she has. I just feel that a man should give the bride away but she thinks I’m being mean.
Post # 3
I see how this can be so difficult for you to choose. I see it like this it’s your day and whatever makes you happy go for it. Ask whto you feel should walk you down the aisle. I learned that trying to please everyone on a day that is about me and now my husband is not going to work. Why? Cause I won’t be happy. My father didn’t show up at my wedding so I asked my oldest brother to walk me. The day before the wedding I decided that my mom deserved the honor to walk me cause she was there for me from day one and my brother was perfectly fine with that. Do what your heart feels not wever everyone else feels.
Post # 4
Could you walk on your own?
Post # 5
I have always imagined my that in my wedding I would be walked by a guy (my stepfather was always in that roll but that is now out of the question). Plus I feel I might need the support.
Post # 6
Personally if I were in your position I would ask your mom. But that is also because I feel that men have come and gone in my life and I have always had my mom and I feel really close to her because of that, so I would never hesitate to ask my mom something like walking me down the aisle. However, I understand your line of thought that a man should give the bride away. If you really don’t like the suggestion of walking alone I would ask the man that you really feel the kinship to, which is your grandfather. I wouldn’t worry about hurting your dad’s feelings as you are not close to him as you are to your grandfather and this day, and that one specific moment, should really be about the love and support that you want around you.
Post # 7
my best friend had a similar dilemma!!! she had her father walk her down part way, then her mother take over for the next part as her dad followed behind, then her grandfather took over and her mom and dad followed behind.
Post # 8
That is a dilemma… I would have them both walk you down the aisle to represent you at two different points in your life. For example, your mom has been there always.. but you havent always know your grandpa… its shows your growth as a person and it represents boths sides of your families adopted and paternal. as far as your dad he should be fine if he really cared he would have been a little closer rather than distant