Post # 1
Because of terrible prom flashbacks associated with corsages, we aren’t doing them for our mothers, grandmothers, etc. Plus, my mom is not keen on the idea of sticking pins into her expensive new dress. My question is, should we still do bouts for the fathers and grandfathers or will that look off balance? And another related question — if the groom and his attendants wear bouts can they also wear pocket squares or will that be too much going on? I love the look of pocket squares but want the guys to have bouts since the girls are carrying flowers. Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
Most fashion guides say either pocket squares or bouts, but not both because it gets a bit busy.
If you’re not doing corsages for the women, don’t do bouts for the guys. You’re honoring those people by giving them flowers, so it would be strange to honor the men and not the women.
(PS — my mom didn’t want a corsage for the very same reason!)
Post # 4
I didn’t want traditional corsages either, even when my florist told me that they can use magnets instead of pins… Just didn’t want any part of it. Instead, I’m doing DIY wristlets — with silk flowers and ribbon. Not sure if that would fit the vibe of your wedding, but it’s a corsage alternative to consider.
Post # 5
My mom had a nosegay (I think that’s what it is.) It was just a little tiny bouquet. I think she actually appreciated not having something awkward pinned on her. Also, she liked having something to hold on to.
Post # 6
Also, based on Lillindy’s pictures, I don’t think bouts and squares look too busy together. IMO.
Post # 7
I think pocket squares are very chic, and could match the ribbon on the maids’ bouquets rather than matching the boutonnieres to the flowers! Plus, sites like Esquire.com and GQ.com have lots of great suggestions on cool folds to dress up your pocket square. I also think monogramming the squares instantly makes them into a very classy groomsman’s gift! 🙂
In terms of who should get a boutonniere, if you are doing tons of flowers, generally dads, ushers, and other "important males" would get them, whomever they may be. That could include junior groomsmen and candle lighters, if you’re having them. If you’d like to scale back, no one really HAS to have them. It’s up to you to choose how you’d like to distinguish your special guys.
Though, I have to say, I don’t think it would look too awkward to have boutonnieres on the guys if the women don’t have flowers. 🙂
I hope that helps! Good luck!
Post # 8
I’m doing a small bouquet for my mom and FMIL. For bouts, we are doing them for FI, my dad (his dad is deceased), grandfather, groomsmen and if we have a male reader, him, too. We are having at least one female reader and will do a flower pin (ie female bout) for her and also for our grandmothers.
Post # 9
We had our florist attach magnets instead of pins to the corsages. I thought that worked out well.