Post # 1
We just had our first meeting with our Rabbi. The ceremony is being held in a conservative synagogue. The Rabbi stated that for the ketubah, we needed a jewish male(although a female is possible but it wouldnt be considered kosher in israel) who was not a relative- blood or nonblood- to sign for each of us. I know who mine is, but my FI and I had hoped that his uncle could sign (the uncle is not a blood relative). Has anyone had a close non-blood relative sign?
Post # 3
<font face=”Times New Roman” color=”#330066″>According to http://www.elaineadler.com/hmKet_pages/frameset_hmket.html?hmKet=ketubaFAQs.html</font>
<font face=”Times New Roman” color=”#330066″>In the Orthodox tradition, the witnesses must be male, unrelated, and often are required to be observant. Reform rabbis and some Conservative rabbis allow women witnesses as well as men. </font>
Post # 4
this is tricky. if you are reform, any jewish adult can sign the ketubah. if you are orthodox, two men must sign. if you are conservative, it depends. my FI and i assumed that since our shul allows women to don tefillah and tallesim, we could have a woman sign our ketubah. FI and i asked a female friend and a male friend to sign, only for the rabbi to tell us he prefers if two men sign the ketubah. his reasoning was if we go to israel, our ketubah will not be considered valid if signed by a woman. so we had to ask someone else. luckily the female we had asked to sign was very understanding.
in addition to the two witnesses (eidim) who sign, the groom and maybe the bride might sign. it all depends on your ketubah and your rabbi.
hope that clears it up for you.
Post # 5
We had two of my husband’s close family friends sign our ketubah (both Jewish, one male and one female). However, we are reform Jews.
Post # 6
My fiance is reform, and we’re having our non-family attendants sign–one male, one female, one Jewish, one not. The rules are different for everyone.
Post # 7
I am very new to Ketubahs and have no idea who will be able to sign ours. I know who could do it for my fiance, but have no idea who could do it for me. Good thing I have some time to think about it.
Post # 8
We are having everyone who attends our wedding sign, as well as the two of us and the rabbi. Our rabbi is Reform, which helps.
Post # 9
our rabbi’s reform, and he said any jewish person could sign. he said that this could cause us trouble in the future, if our kid wanted to move to israel or become orthodox because orthodox rabbi’s probably wont consider us married, so if we want to follow that law than only have jewish men sign. i’m not forseeing that happening, so we’re going with the reform way.
Post # 10
We are haivng a reform ceremony, and FI has a Jewish friend who will sign the Ketubah, but sadly, none of my friends are Jewish! Is it bad to have a non Jewish person sign?
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2014 - Temple Beth Am/Love is Blind
I am bringing this thread back to whine a little bit. I am a convert, reform. I have been working with my rabbi for years. I know that my conversion is meaningless in Israel, as it is in the eyes of the Orthodox community in general. She will be performing our wedding ceremony. I asked her about the witnesses for the Ketubah and she says it must be two Jewish males who are unrrelated to us. Really? Our ketubah is nothing but symbolic anyway, and we definitely don’t have anyone who meets that criteria coming to the wedding (maybe one person, definitely not two). I don’t want random people signing the document we are putting together, which will hang in our home forever. Grrrrrrr.