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I'm totally with you mrsbee! I almost always start the fights, but it's because HE did something wrong! Haha.
those poll results are nuts!
Is it because guys avoid conflict, or because we just pick fights? Ooooh boy, now I'm feeling a little guilty about picking all the fights. We girls can be such drama queens!
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Our "fights' are mostly one of us feeling personally attacked. He'll say something and I'll take it the wrong way or vice versa. We're not being mean intentionally. How we respond to each other is greatly dependent on hormones and who's having a bad week. For instance, my FI is flying in for Easter. I told him that Friday would be *our* day, and Saturday/Sunday would be family and friends day. Great. He heard Friday/Sunday is family day. Well, I planned for lunch and dinner for us Friday, a quiet night in, some movies, etc, and then planned a surprise birthday thing for HIM on Saturday, which includes baseball tickets so he can see all his friends. And of course, Sunday is easter with his family. So i was thinking "omg we don't get to spend quality time together, wtf!" Well, he planned a bunch of stuff with his family for Friday and Sunday b/c he assumed Saturday was going to be *our* day when in actuality I made it all about him and his friends. Miscommunication? Of course. But it bothered me (more so than usual that month, and you can guess why) that he didn't set aside a specific "date" time for us! He ended up finding out about his surprise party on Saturday and shuffled around things so we could have "us" time on Friday. He knew it bothered me, realized that the thing i was planning Saturday was for him, not us, and fixed it. It all ended well, but it was hard trying to explain to him that Saturday was not "Date Night" for us, while keeping it from him!
Wow sorry if that was super confusing! Just a typical example.
I do. He never gets mad at me. He's so easy going and laid back so I feel like I never do anything wrong! :)
I definitely start almost all of our arguments. I'm much more sensitive and high-strung and he's much more laid-back.
He does, but he doesn't mean to. When he drinks, he likes to get in to these deep discussions about important things. When i drink, I giggle and sing along to whatever music is in my head. When we both drink too much, he starts a discussion, which, in my buzzy happy state, I am in no mood to have. Insta-fight. I don't like important things invading my happy place...
definately me! He does not like to fight and prefers to let everything go.. then I pick at it and pick at it.. and then he'll argue with me a little and then just let it go and pretend nothing happened.. lol it's frustrating sometimes beacause he is not confrontational at all. Like if he needs to confront someone else he usually won't until the "right moment" presents itself. Then I get annoyed that he hasn't done it already ..lol 
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we dont fight but i do get moody and snappy and he has banned coke/cola from the house as as sugar makes me bitch at him for very little reason.
thankfully my FI is very easy going so he usually either tells me to go have a nap or goes to his workshop and makes alot of noise until im over it. Since ive given up most of the sugar stuff (and lost 40lbs while im at it) ive noticed ALOT less mood swings which makes a happier home
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we don't fight we just disagree sometimes cant call it fighting really
My FI is under the impression that if he doesn't address an issue, it will disappear.
Considering that I'm overly verbose and obsessive compulsive, I always want to hash things out.
So, I usually don't do anything that causes an argument, but I definitely am a proactive fighter! :)
I think I do. The only fights he starts is when he gets mad that I havent cleaned up the kitchen or something. We have very differing views on cleanliness and neatness. He sees mail on the counter as untidy and annoying. I see a completely empty counter as weird and un homely. Same goes for bathrom vanity and the top of my dresser!
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It's ALWAYS me. I let myself get stressed about work, or losing weight, or a messy house (gall, there are probably a million things that get me worked up!) and then I'll say something to him that really has nothing to do with him. Luckily, he has learned to recognize why I am saying certain things and not take it personally. And I'm trying to be LESS stressed (thank you, massage therapist!) so it's been a working compromise thus far!! :)
I can honestly say that we never had one fight until after we started planning our wedding. We still don't fight... more like argue or bicker ... it's always about the planning and I think it's from the stress!
I do, and I always feel horrible about it. (Though I'm always the one the apologizes first, even if he starts it!) As such, we don't really have "fights", though. Just heated one-sided discussions, because all that happens is that I rant and he's quiet, and then I feel bad and apologize.
He does something that makes me mad or just sits and seethes because he's mad at me, but I am almost always the one that takes it up a notch into an argument. I hate to sit in silence.
He may make a brutally honest comment or judgement of me here or there, but he just wants to get it off his chest. I'm the one who takes personally, and then makes him talk about it for like 3 hours lol. OR usually he does stuff that I feel warrants a discussion, and I'll start up with him until I feel he understands my point of view a little better.
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I admit it -- I start pretty much all the fights with Mr. Bee. But that doesn't mean I'm the one that's wrong!