(Closed) Who "takes care" of your household?

posted 4 years ago in Home
  • poll:
    Me - SO/FI/DH wouldn't know where to find the kitchen or the broom... : (71 votes)
    29 %
    We have a balance - 50/50! : (127 votes)
    52 %
    SO/FI/DH takes care of me! : (27 votes)
    11 %
    Other... (please explain) : (20 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    662 posts
    Busy bee

    He cooks, does the dishes, takes out the trash, and cleans the bathroom.  I clean and vacuum the rest of the house, and do the dishes half of the time.  We split things fairly fifty fifty.  Except the cooking, he does all the cooking 🙂  I got lucky!

     

    Oh and I’m apparently not allowed to do the laundry, so he does all that. 

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    825 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @squigglybaby:  FI does almost all of the cooking, and I do dishes, laundry, cleaning, etc. This is a totally fair trade for me, as I hate cooking and can’t be bothered ;P

     

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    1781 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We split chores and errands 50/50 for the most part! 

    Post # 6
    Member
    6365 posts
    Bee Keeper

    My FI does about 60% of the day-to-day chores (and is the undisputed chef of the household), but I’m trying to catch up!

    Post # 7
    Member
    12259 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I do 100%, but I’m going to be a SAHM, so I think he likes to know that I can take care of the house and work 55 hrs/wk without complaining! (obviously kids will be WAY more hours, but it’s the premise)

    Post # 8
    Member
    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    He does pretty much all of the cleaning.  I sometimes do the laundry and generally pick up after us, but no scrubbing/washing/vacumming.  He’s way more picky than I am about cleanliness, so it tends to fall to him.  He would come behind me and redo everything anyway when I cleaned, so now… he just does it.

    I do all the cooking (including packing lunches for both of us, and making dinner round II if he works an afternoon shift) and anything that would be considered an “errand” (grocery shopping, picking up/dropping off dry cleaning, banking, gift getting etc.)

    Post # 9
    Member
    6750 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I don’t think it’s offensive to hire a maid.  It’s a job that people do to help support their families, too.  If you can afford it and don’t want to do the work yourself, there’s nothing wrong with giving someone money to bring home for doing something they don’t mind doing.

    However, FI and I are pretty good at splitting the chores except he does a bit more and we hire a cleaning service to come in every once in a few weeks to go over things and to keep us from having to deep clean every week.  I would like the place to be cleaner, but I prefer to spend my free time doing something fun instead.  When we can afford it, I plan on bringing a lady on a weekly basis. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    748 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @squigglybaby:  Mostly me, but FH helps out sometimes. He does the cooking though. That’s mainly because he’s finicky about his food and I’m happy with just soup for dinner. Sometimes I wish it was split more evenly, but he’s a super procrastinator..and if I give him something to do I have to nag and remind him for days to actually get it done. It’s less stressful just to do it myself.

     

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    11227 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    DH does the vast majority of the grocery shopping and the cooking. I handle the vast majority of the kitchen clean up.  I do the laundry and clean the house.  DH takes out the trash and mows the lawn.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1524 posts
    Bumble bee

    we split everything depends on the work schedule his main things he likes to do is the dishes laundry and vaccum i organize cook and pickup. Some days we switch off he really is my rock!

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    9172 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    He cooks and does the dishes / kitchen cleaning. I do the laundry and general picking up. The deep cleaning is shared but I do more (70-30ish). I can’t complain!

    Post # 15
    Member
    8981 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I do. My husband deploys a lot so I can’t delegate chores to him. He works. I maintain the house. That’s our agreement.

    Post # 16
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    9172 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Ps – I agree with PPs that having someone come clean your house occasionally sounds awesome. Once we have two incomes, hell yeah.  It might be snooty to have a live-in maid, but having occasional help is totally normal and reasonable. 

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