Post # 1
I’m addressing my invitations right now…and there is about 35 people (fiance’s extended family and parents friends) out of a guest list of 75 who I really don’t know. I don’t even know what they look like. I wish I could look them up on facebook just to find out something but most of them don’t have a facebook.
Problem: they come up to me expecting me to know who they are…I know this because at holiday gatherings its always the same story. Some of them I have met once, forgot what they looked like and then I see them and if I don’t remember anything about them and I’m treated like I’m completely rude.
So add in 35 people that I’ve never met or seen before and it will be 35 times worse than family get togethers. This mostly happens with my fiance’s family. And no one introduces me…my fiance is usually busy talking with the rest of his family and I’m left feeling awkward!
Sorry…this is a half vent post. Not totally venting. But just figuring out how to handle these people. Any suggestions??
Post # 3
I can totally relate. I am TERRIBLE at names and faces. I seriously think I’m in the 1st percentile of being able to remember people after meeting them once.
The first thing you’ve got to do is get your Fiance to help you. Get him to stay close by, and say, “Oh, I don’t think you’ve met cousin George!” or “Hey, you remember my great aunt Monica, right?” He can also do it more subtly by addressing people by their names in front of you. If you’re close to anyone else in his family, you can ask them to do the same thing.
I’m as nervous about this as you are. My SO has a HUGE extended family (I don’t) that’s flying in for the wedding. We’re having a family BBQ the day before so everyone can meet each other, and I am just terrified. But I came up with a great plan! Since it’s a getting-to-know-you party, I’m going to make everyone wear funny nametags! Fun, cute, and easy peasy!
Post # 4
lol i understand you soooo much
we have a sri lankan wedding which means 3 parties
1st day we have about 150 guests i know about 60 of them
2nd day we have about 300 guests i know about 75/80 of them
3d day we have about 300 guests and i know about 75/80 of them
it’s soooo awkward and i dunno what to do. I’m open to alll suggestions as well.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 5
I am in the same boat if quite a few of FI’s realitives actually make the trip to our wedding (some of the drives would be over 10 hrs just to get to the wedding). FI’s family is huge and I have barely met any of them. I would just pardon yourself and say you are not good with faces and names. That usually does the trick.
Post # 6
I have the same issue… and I live in the same town as alot of them now!! lol…
What me and Future Mother-In-Law are going to do (and this has alot to do with my coping with anxiety…) we are going through the pictures of past events and family gatherings so I can get refreshed before the wedding. Generally though the groom will be with you most the wedding, and you can ask him ahead of time to say something along the lines of “thank you uncle joe! jane and I appreciate you coming!” both your and the guests names get repeated and you can at lest most of the time have a free pass in remembering