(Closed) Who throws the Bridal Shower and what do you do?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1270 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

well, my Maid/Matron of Honor threw my shower. technically, it’s against “etiquette” to have someone in your immediate family throw your shower, like your mom or your sister. at least that’s what i was told.

i just had mine tonight.

we ate appetizers, and just sat around and talked for a while. then we played a game. all the girls broke up into groups and had to make a wedding dress and veil out of toilet paper. it was really fun… and i was the judge!

then, we had this thing called “bridal bingo” and throughout the night the girls were playing bingo–and each square was something that was going to happen that night. like group picture, hot shoes, a toast, and other stuff like that.

i sat down and opened presents, and one of my BMs made a bouquet out of all my ribbon/wrapping. i will carry this the day of the rehearsal dinner.

the girls also all wrote down memories with me, and then i had to read through all of them and guess who wrote it.

it was a pink and black theme, and all the girls wore black and i wore pink.

we all went out dancing afterwards.

that’s how mine went, but i have been to some that go a little bit differently. but gernally, a friend or family friend throws it for you, you play a couple games, eat food and dessert and open presents! it’s usually 1 or 2 months before your wedding.

Post # 4
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I was wondering who throws the showers also.  No one has offered to throw me one.  I haven’t picked a Maid/Matron of Honor yet.  My sister is going to be a bridesmaid, and my best friend is going to be one.  Best friend can’t/won’t be throwing me a shower because she lives in Uganda and won’t be in the US till three weeks before the wedding and even then, she’ll be down in AL, while I’m up here running back and forth between DC (where I live) and DE (where the wedding will be.)  Looks like I won’t be having any showers… 🙁

Post # 5
5758 posts
Bee Keeper

Anybody who wants to can have a shower for you. If a small bridal party, sometimes family members will offer to help out.

You open gifts, eat & drink and socialize pretty much.

Post # 6
6826 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Maid/Matron of Honor is throwing mine.  She only plans on doing 2 games (totally fine with me) since I hate bridal shower games.

There will be small meal and cake and opening gifts.


Post # 7
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My bridesmaids threw my shower, my Maid/Matron of Honor was the main planner for it. We ate, played some games and the they watched me open gifts.

Post # 8
151 posts
Blushing bee

It’s true about the ettiquette and close family members throwing you a shower as it is seen as gauche for them to ask for presents for you.

I’ve thrown all kinds of showers.  From elegant teas for my boss and co-workers to simple home parties for a large group of close friends to pot-lucks for a young co-worker where we all wanted to pitch in for her.

There can be games or not.  At the Tea, we didn’t play any, but at all the rest we did.  From Victorian Parlour Games to (like the above poster) Toilet Paper Dresses.  I really like that one cuz everyone’s creativity really shows through.

You eat.  You talk. You open presents. You pretent that every ribbon you break = how many children you’re going to have.  I ususally provide a favor for the guests to take away.  Candy, teacups, fans, that kind of thing.

Post # 9
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid threw it for me. It was held a restaurant. They provided 3 meals that guests could choose from. The first while was just chit chatting with the guests, followed by lunch, and then present time. I hate bridal shower games… so the girls just did a simple trivia game… in which the guests had to answer some questions about Darling Husband and me (where we met, our favorite restaurant, first vacation, first dance song, etc). They went over the questions intermittently while I opened presents- which was great because it broke up the monotony of me opening gifts for 45 minutes. The decorations were simple- they just bought little potted flowers and placed them as the centerpiece on each table. They also had a cake, which we ate after opening gifts. Favors also- pretty simple- they did little boxes (like tiny chinese takeout boxes) of jelly bellys in our wedding colors.

I’ve been to bridal showers before where the mom has hosted (typically at her house). I don’t think there’s anything tacky about it… but I don’t pretend to be any sort of etiquette police.

I’ve also played bridal bingo before, but a little different version than what a PP said. There was a blank bingo board at each place setting, and you had to write in guesses as to what the bride received for gifts in each box. Then when she opens presents, you mark off your responses until you get bingo. Winner gets a little prize. Like I said- I hate bridal shower games, but this one wasn’t *awful*, because it actually kept me a little entertained while she opened gifts… which is usually the time when everyone zones out or hits the bar. 😉

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