Who to include?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

You don’t need to have an even bridal party. I’d just invite the people you want. I agree it doesn’t make sense to ask the people with the kids that you’re not all that close to. It’s just an obligation.. most people don’t get excited to be bridesmaids (if they’re not close to the person) because it is work and $$$.

Post # 4
Member
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I agree with canarydiamond you don’t have to have an even number. In addition, i know two brides who had a bridesman. One of the two was really cute because they made little jokes throughout the night. I think it would be important for your brother, if you are indeed close, to play a special role. Since the SIL isn’t that close to either of you I don’t think she would feel slighted… Bonus is that she can take care of the newborn. 

Post # 5
Member
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ll echo what PP’s have said — there is no need to have a 4th bridesmaid to “make the sides even” or out of guilt. Adding someone who you aren’t close with is more likely to cause more headache and hassel than not. 

If you don’t believe me, take a tour of the posts on here — they’re almost all a different version of “I felt obligated to ask so-and-so even though we aren’t close, and now she’s annoying the ever-living f*ck out of me.”

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors