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I vote #3.  Yes, it may seem awkward but ultimately your wedding is an event where you want to be surrounded by people that care about you.  One of the bigwigs at my company kept angling for an invite.  But the fact of the matter is...she wasn't my friend or part of my social circle.  I didn't invite her.  It didn't impact my work and she eventually accepted the fact that she wasn't invited (when no invites came in the mail).

Do you also socialize outside work with boss #4?  If no, then I would say you could exclude him.  Just make sure you don't just give out invitations at work, but get people's addresses and send it privately to their home. 

I think this is just the same situation as to what would you do if you had a group of friends you hung out with, but you didn't like one of them.
 

But ultimately, I keep hearing stories about people being really unhappy because some they disliked showed up and offended people, etc.  So I guess that's why we're all leaning away from inviting someone you don't like.

I agree with cyshas.  Invite those you socialize with outside of work but do not invite the boss you dislike.  Be sure to send the invitations to guests homes and do not give them out at work.  If your other 3 bosses are aware of the issues the employees have with the othere partner then they will be polite enough not to say anything.  If they cannot attend anyway then they will just RSVP no and probably not bring it up.  If you hear through the grapevine that your 4th boss was insulted you can always send another invite.

So what do you guys think?

#1) Don't invite any of the bosses and possibly insult the 3 bosses I'm close to?

#2) Invite all bosses and risk boss #4 attending?

#3) Invite 3 bosses and not invite boss #4, thereby possibly insulting him?

do you think it's going to somehow affect your working relationship if you dont invite them?

im inviting my team - but not my bosses - b/c well, i dont care for either of them - none of us do - and having them there would just not make me happy or enrich my day in any way. i dont feel that just b/c they are higher up on the org chart that i should - but my sitch is differnt from yours b/c you have a good relationship with 3 out of the 4.

my rule for work is this: if i am ok with picking up the tab when we grab happy hour and dinner - then im cool with inviting them to wedding if i am not feelin it - im not inviting you to one of the most important days of my life - regardless of where they sit on the organizational chart. i know i wouldnt be invited to any of their personal functions, so why am i stressing over mine? i am paid to work, not make friends...

i'd just not invite any of them if it were me...

i know i'm no help as far as advice - but just givin you my pov.. Good Luck!

I personally would invite all the bosses.  But I'm inviting my whole office - I have about 22 people in the office but I've been here for 6 years.  That's 44 people on the guest list which has definitely been a stretch.  But when my dad died about 12 of them came to the funeral - and others sent cards. I buy into that we are a close office and we have happy hours etc outside of work.  There are a couple that don't come, but I don't want to exclude them and deal with bad juju.  My bosses aren't really on the possible exclusion list - they've picked up happy hour tabs for years I don't begrudge them a meal. 

Don't know how long you've been there - what your career aspirations are - but if you're inviting 3 of the 4 your asking for trouble by leaving the 4th out.  Esp if the 4th is involved with your paycheck.

#3 and just tell the other bosses to keep it on the DL in front of boss #4.