Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids is my cousin who is under 18, so I’m struggling with whether or how to include her in the bachelorette party. She’s located ~6 hours away so I doubt she would be able to come even if invited. So should I plan on a way to include her just in case? I was planning on just doing a small, somewhat low key night at a local bar. Thoughts? If it changes anything, I have another cousin who is also a bridesmaid and is over 18, but under 21. She will be invited but she’s ~4 hours away so I don’t know if she’d be able to make it either.
Post # 3
Honestly, if going somewhere 21 and older is what you want to do on your bach party I think they would totally understand. At least I would! There isn’t much to do as far as going out for a under 21 yr old let alone under 18 yr old where I live, unless you want to do something not drinking related then that could totally work. You could always do dinner first at a a place they could attend then go out after but make it known that you understand it is really far to come just for dinner so they don’t have to feel bad for not making it.
Post # 4
We have had two bachlorette parties now with under 21ers. The first we did a really fun dinner where we knew they could def. go- think Japenese steakhouse or melting pot. Then we did a scavenger hunt- we were at the beach on the boardwalk, so everyone could do that as well (and it was really fun!) then surprisingly they did get into a bar no questions asked (they were 19 in college… not their first beer). I don’t know if the bouncer just didn’t want anyone to be left out? The second we did as a “family” bachlorette where the mothers (aunts) were there too, and it seemed that if the parents were there it wasn’t such a big deal. But My best advice would be to at least plan a fun dinner and maybe a scavenger hunt then see if they can come before planning the rest in stone…. (this post isn’t to condone underage drinking!)
Post # 5
You could always do a fun dinner beforehand that all the girls can attend, and then hit up a bar or something later. Although, if that’s the plan, it’s probably not worth their major travel time anyway…
You could always have two bachelorette parties if it turns out they do want to and will attend the under-21 party. You could go out with your 21+ girlfriends on another night, too. 🙂
Post # 6
@Gemstone: Yeah that was my thought too. If she could only come to the dinner beforehand, then I would feel kind of silly even suggesting that she come for just dinner!