Post # 1
I know this has been asked before but I still wanted to ask again to find answers to my situation. My Maid/Matron of Honor has asked for a guest list for the bridal shower and I don’t know who to include. She is hosting it near where she is from (which is also where my Fiance is from), so his mom and sister will be the only ones not from out of town so that doesn’t help me narrow people down much. I have like no female friends outside of my bridal party, so I don’t have friends to invite.
My mom said you invite all females that are invited to the wedding. So do I do that, even though some people live over 10 hours away & some live on the other side of the country & are just dates of Fi’s cousins?
Also do I invite the females from FI’s side, who I don’t really know and all live 3+ hours away?
For my family should I just invite those in state & neighboring states or invite them all?
Originally I was just going to invite my mom, his mom, his sister, my bridesmaids, & my godmother (who is one of my <18 bridesmaids mom). Then I was told I should invite his aunt who lives nearby & the female neighbors his side is inviting. When my mom heard that she got upset saying that all her sisters should be invited then too and it started to spiral & now I’m so confused.
I could really use some advice…
Post # 3
I would invite bridal party female members, moms, grandmothers, sisters and any other immediate family like aunts and cousins even if they are out of state. My aunt out of state would be hurt if my aunt in state was invited and she wasn’t even though she probably wouldn’t make the trip. I wouldn’t invite every female guest because then you have people you don’t even know and aren’t family like you said.
Post # 4
i don’t think you should invite people based on where they are located but rather, how close you are to them
Post # 5
@Mrs. Meowerson: Agreed – if they can come great! if not – maybe they will send a gift 😉
i just had mine on sunday 🙂 it was very small – but i dont have a lot of friends – haha thats sad isnt it? I had all 5 of my BMs (2 being my sisters) Future Mother-In-Law, Future Sister-In-Law x 3, my mom and some neighborhood friends of my mom that i have known most of my life
there were probably about 15 people – maybe.
Post # 6
@totheislnds: not sad at all! I will be having even less than you! Ill be having my 4 Bridesmaids, maybe my mother (shes out of state) , 1 of my BM’s daughters and my daughter! lol
Post # 7
My mother and I just completed the list for my shower. I had no clue who was supposed to be included in a shower. We settled on people that were both local and active in my or my mother’s life. My Future Mother-In-Law also was asked who she would like to invite. We are inviting relatives and close friends that are local and my family from a nearby state. We are not inviting my FI’s extended family from another nearby state as I have very little relationship with them. All in all it will be about 30 women (no children). I am inviting 140 people (including children) to my wedding. I hope this helps!
Just like everything else with your wedding, you should try and envision how you want the day to feel and make choices that lead you closer to that vision. If you don’t want to have a 50 person shower where you will have to make chit-chat with people you have met only once, then don’t!
Post # 8
Thanks that helps! I feel like less of a looser now because I don’t have very many female friends outside of my bridal party as well!