Who to invite to bridal shower?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If you invite all those people, you’d be looking at a guest list of close to 60 people – which is a ton!  I think in this case, if your FMIL wants all her friends and family to be invited, she should throw her own shower for those people. 

 

Post # 4
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1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

I agree, have her throw a second shower if she insists on such a large guest count.  And I think it’s rude to ask people to your shower that are not invited to the wedding…I know you aren’t trying to invite them, but FMIL should know better…

Post # 5
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Jw1724:  typically you invite all the women you are inviting to the wedding, but I would say do what makes you comfortable.

Post # 6
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

That’s definitely excessive. Tell her your list and let her know you can’t ask your mom and MOH to throw a shower od that size, also that you want something more intimate. That she’s welcome to throw something for those people. Showers are meant for your close friends and your family. Not everyone on your guest list that has a vagina!

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

We definitely didn’t invite every single woman invited to our wedding. I had a couple of different showers with different guest lists, including my family and close friends, and then a shower with my husband’s family and family friends. It worked out well for us. Is this maybe an option for you?

Post # 8
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965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

As the hosts how many people they feel comfortable inviting. If they say that 25 is a good number, then let FMIL know that she can add up to 7 people to the invite list.

If she wants more, than she can host her own shower.

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